WEBVTT 00:00:01.558 --> 00:00:05.486 But you're gonna have to say your name for me. Oh, OK. So my name is Shay 00:00:05.519 --> 00:00:10.126 , um, Vi Hill, V Hill. That's right. OK. So this is for Solis, um, 00:00:10.159 --> 00:00:15.527 interviewing Shay Veil on May 28th, 2016 at about 1:15 p.m. for the 00:00:15.560 --> 00:00:19.567 Creative Push project. OK, now we're ready. All right, so if you could 00:00:19.600 --> 00:00:26.276 start as far back as the conception. Planned unplanned. Oh gosh, the 00:00:26.309 --> 00:00:32.146 ketchup, the conception of my daughter was unplanned, uh, it was in my. 00:00:32.179 --> 00:00:38.335 Last year of high school, my senior year in high school, and my boyfriend 00:00:38.368 --> 00:00:45.896 was in his first year in college, so. I actually didn't at the time live 00:00:45.929 --> 00:00:50.217 with my parents or I was actually living inside of my friend's house. So 00:00:50.250 --> 00:00:53.487 at the time, that's when I used to go over to the dorms to see him a lot 00:00:53.520 --> 00:01:00.476 and um our daughter wasn't planned at all. So how did you find out? Were 00:01:00.509 --> 00:01:07.025 you just like, I'm a superior? Yeah, when um signs showing. When, uh, I 00:01:07.058 --> 00:01:10.176 found out when I was pregnant. 00:01:10.209 --> 00:01:13.555 Oh gosh. 00:01:13.588 --> 00:01:18.076 Well, the first indicator was I started to feel some minor backaches, and 00:01:18.109 --> 00:01:20.676 it was uncomfortable because I've never had backaches at the time because 00:01:20.709 --> 00:01:26.117 I was 18 at the time and I've never experienced having a backache before. 00:01:26.150 --> 00:01:32.665 And when I realized it was really uncomfortable and I didn't really know 00:01:32.698 --> 00:01:36.525 what it was at first, like I didn't really lift anything and I was young 00:01:36.558 --> 00:01:39.977 before, so I didn't like lifting things didn't really affect me that much. 00:01:40.010 --> 00:01:46.236 So just that uncomfortable pain I felt was something new and I was just 00:01:46.269 --> 00:01:49.915 concerned about it. And it wasn't until later on, like I realized I was 00:01:49.948 --> 00:01:54.355 late on my period about a week and that's when I went to go tell my 00:01:54.388 --> 00:02:00.566 boyfriend I was late on my period. And then the nausea came and I noticed 00:02:00.599 --> 00:02:07.555 my senses sense and smell was more sharper and it was just horrible. I, I 00:02:07.588 --> 00:02:11.436 didn't like the smell of meats. I didn't like the smell of bacon was the 00:02:11.469 --> 00:02:15.335 main thing I didn't like the smell of. It made me so sick. It's 00:02:15.368 --> 00:02:20.146 interesting. We've heard a lot of meat smells. Yeah. 00:02:20.179 --> 00:02:25.386 So were you emotionally when you found out? When we were emotional, uh, I 00:02:25.419 --> 00:02:33.025 was emotional. Because actually I come from my family. My mother was a 00:02:33.058 --> 00:02:39.066 young parent as well. She had me when she was 16 and one of the first 00:02:39.099 --> 00:02:42.427 emotions I felt was I was excited, but then I felt like I also, I let my 00:02:42.460 --> 00:02:47.656 family down again because I'm going to be repeating the same footsteps as 00:02:47.689 --> 00:02:53.225 my mom, and that I felt like I was kind of disappointed in myself at the 00:02:53.258 --> 00:02:58.335 time too because I always thought I wouldn't be that person. But overall, 00:02:58.368 --> 00:03:04.737 what came over me as I was really excited actually because. Uh, I always 00:03:04.770 --> 00:03:08.217 thought of myself as a mother figure to begin with because I have two 00:03:08.250 --> 00:03:12.335 younger brothers. I'm the oldest side of my family. And I have my two 00:03:12.368 --> 00:03:14.856 little brothers that I used to watch all the time. My youngest one at the 00:03:14.889 --> 00:03:18.495 , my youngest brother at the time was 3 years old, so I'd watch him and 00:03:18.528 --> 00:03:22.975 he'd basically be like in a sense kind of like my own child. I would take 00:03:23.008 --> 00:03:26.376 care of him in that way. I'd change him clean and bathe them and make sure 00:03:26.409 --> 00:03:30.876 he was fed as the old sister, I'd always watch that with him. And I was 00:03:30.909 --> 00:03:37.025 excited because oh gosh, as corny as it sounds like you're in that teenage 00:03:37.058 --> 00:03:39.636 phase where you're you're like you feel like you're in love with the 00:03:39.669 --> 00:03:44.505 person and I was so happy that you know I was gonna have a child with me 00:03:44.538 --> 00:03:50.896 my my first love in high school so I was really excited about that. Um, 00:03:50.929 --> 00:03:56.025 had you been around pregnant people or seen any births or any had that 00:03:56.058 --> 00:04:00.737 much experience with the actual process of birth pregnancy? With the 00:04:00.770 --> 00:04:04.096 actual experience with pregnancy, I didn't have any experience at all. I 00:04:04.129 --> 00:04:09.255 only had the, I had some friends again, uh, 00:04:09.288 --> 00:04:12.936 a lot of, I wanna say a lot. Some of my friends actually in high school 00:04:12.969 --> 00:04:17.875 were like way pregnant before me and they had children earlier, so. I only 00:04:17.908 --> 00:04:21.515 got to observe that at the time. I didn't really have any family members 00:04:21.548 --> 00:04:25.195 or got to experience. I just heard and I got to see some process of like a 00:04:25.228 --> 00:04:28.676 baby bump, but after a certain period of time of seeing them, I'd stopped 00:04:28.709 --> 00:04:32.486 seeing them in high school and unfortunately I had some friends who didn't 00:04:32.519 --> 00:04:35.385 even get to finish high school because they were pregnant with their child 00:04:35.418 --> 00:04:38.036 at the time. 00:04:38.069 --> 00:04:42.395 So, um, how was the pregnancy? 00:04:42.428 --> 00:04:46.467 My pregnancy was. 00:04:46.500 --> 00:04:52.586 Oh my gosh, I went through so many. Unexpected things, I guess. Um, I try 00:04:52.619 --> 00:04:57.666 to be as prepared as possible as I could. Like my mother bought me a 00:04:57.699 --> 00:05:01.887 pregnancy book. I think it was called, oh, I forgot the title of the book. 00:05:01.920 --> 00:05:06.015 like what, what to expect when expecting so my mom got that for me and I 00:05:06.048 --> 00:05:10.616 would read it, but I, I remember I didn't read it a lot or I didn't read 00:05:10.649 --> 00:05:13.856 it as frequently as I wanted to. It was actually my boyfriend who read a 00:05:13.889 --> 00:05:17.536 lot of it before I did, so he would go through and like read before like 00:05:17.569 --> 00:05:20.856 um when I'm at school he would go ahead and read a bunch of what's going 00:05:20.889 --> 00:05:24.455 on and it wasn't until like I'm showing signs he he'll bring up like, oh 00:05:24.488 --> 00:05:28.067 that's what you're experiencing, you're experiencing. Nausea, you're, 00:05:28.100 --> 00:05:30.906 you're emotional because of this, and he'd always explained to me why I'm 00:05:30.939 --> 00:05:32.825 like, how do you know this? I'm like, I didn't even get to this in the 00:05:32.858 --> 00:05:35.586 book yet. Then he, he would beat me to it and then I read it. I'm like, oh 00:05:35.619 --> 00:05:41.926 , you're really involved. So it was nice. So he was supportive. Oh, he was 00:05:41.959 --> 00:05:48.575 my boyfriend was very supportive with uh the whole pregnancy, uh. The 00:05:48.608 --> 00:05:51.887 going to find out or going to the doctors when we first found out we were 00:05:51.920 --> 00:05:59.920 pregnant, uh. I guess he did his research had a hand and he went out and. 00:06:00.009 --> 00:06:05.967 Found out I we either get a blood test or had to go a urine test for me 00:06:06.000 --> 00:06:10.765 to or to find out if we were pregnant. So what he did was he got me a 00:06:10.798 --> 00:06:15.526 giant cup of like Power aid and I actually had to, he told me to finish it 00:06:15.559 --> 00:06:17.526 because it's most likely he's like they're probably gonna draw blood or 00:06:17.559 --> 00:06:21.366 make you pee in the cup and I was like, OK, so I drank this giant thing 00:06:21.399 --> 00:06:25.187 and I had to go to the bathroom so bad. By the time we're at the doctor's 00:06:25.220 --> 00:06:27.356 and I was pacing back and forth, I'm like, oh, they're gonna see us soon, 00:06:27.389 --> 00:06:35.389 right? And he's, he's like, don't pee yet. Wait. I No. 00:06:41.449 --> 00:06:46.676 I think we're good. But uh yeah, 00:06:46.709 --> 00:06:50.317 so I was having to pee and I was pacing back and forth in the lobby. I'm 00:06:50.350 --> 00:06:52.377 like, I need to go pee. He's like, don't pee yet. They're gonna have to 00:06:52.410 --> 00:06:56.197 collect that. And it was funny because the doctor got my information, he 00:06:56.230 --> 00:06:59.515 got my weight, he got my height. He got my age and just checking in 00:06:59.548 --> 00:07:03.757 through that process. Uh, then he, right when he saw showed me the cup and 00:07:03.790 --> 00:07:06.476 he's like, I need you to. I'm like, OK, cool. So I just grabbed the cup 00:07:06.509 --> 00:07:09.265 and he's like, Oh yeah, you're gonna go take a urine sample. So I was like 00:07:09.298 --> 00:07:14.387 , Oh nice. I was so happy actually to run into the restroom. So that part 00:07:14.420 --> 00:07:20.586 was easy and when he told us that what we were already expecting was the 00:07:20.619 --> 00:07:24.986 signs of when my boyfriend already researched that, that we were pregnant 00:07:25.019 --> 00:07:33.019 with my daughter at the time. And That was. Just the shock of that. It was 00:07:34.358 --> 00:07:37.776 really funny. 00:07:37.809 --> 00:07:41.757 I'm trying to remember how. 00:07:41.790 --> 00:07:46.836 It was just like a really nervous shaking kind of a feeling and excited as 00:07:46.869 --> 00:07:52.846 well. Oh gosh, I repeated your question. OK. Did you hear a heartbeat then 00:07:52.879 --> 00:07:57.286 , or did they just get the, they, they just gave us the slip and uh they 00:07:57.319 --> 00:08:03.526 gave us a slip for the pregnancy and 00:08:03.559 --> 00:08:09.007 say that I was the pregnancy test was positive. And that's when he was 00:08:09.040 --> 00:08:13.666 like, my boyfriend at the time, or my boyfriend now. My boyfriend actually 00:08:13.699 --> 00:08:17.575 was uh really supportive from there like from the first time we went to go 00:08:17.608 --> 00:08:20.705 to find out if I was pregnant too, he went to every single doctor's 00:08:20.738 --> 00:08:28.156 appointment with me. Uh, and to, he even had to. Basically beat my mom to 00:08:28.189 --> 00:08:34.164 the door to who's gonna hear the heartbeat, um. I had to go back and forth 00:08:34.197 --> 00:08:38.554 between Flagstaff and to Winslow IHS Hospital because I didn't have 00:08:38.587 --> 00:08:42.596 insurance in Flagstaff at the time or I had access, but it was more 00:08:42.629 --> 00:08:48.885 convenient to go to an IHS. So. I had to go to the Winslow Hospital back 00:08:48.918 --> 00:08:54.047 to Flagstaff for my wellness or what are they called my prenatal checkups. 00:08:54.080 --> 00:08:59.255 So. When we were told that you're gonna be going in for your ultrasound, 00:08:59.288 --> 00:09:03.057 I got super excited because I got to see what was actually going around 00:09:03.090 --> 00:09:06.936 and moving like I felt like butterflies or something swimming in my 00:09:06.969 --> 00:09:12.496 stomach all the time, so I was super excited to go see and see her and see 00:09:12.529 --> 00:09:17.547 or hear the heartbeats. So my boyfriend had to beat my mom to the door 00:09:17.580 --> 00:09:21.746 basically to who had to go in with me because they only would allow one 00:09:21.779 --> 00:09:26.667 person to go in and my mom was really worked up and my boyfriend was 00:09:26.700 --> 00:09:31.505 getting really upset, but my mom like came to a conclusion she's like, yes 00:09:31.538 --> 00:09:35.446 , you know, you deserve to be in there as much as I want to be, it should 00:09:35.479 --> 00:09:40.476 be you. So my mom actually let my boyfriend come in with me and I was 00:09:40.509 --> 00:09:46.765 super excited. It was cold. I remember when they stuck me inside that room 00:09:46.798 --> 00:09:51.356 , it was really dark and the room looked like kind of scary. It was uh I 00:09:51.389 --> 00:09:54.677 never have good memories of the IHS, so everything looked all scary in 00:09:54.710 --> 00:09:58.946 there for me, but when. 00:09:58.979 --> 00:10:02.066 They turn on the monitor. That's when I saw my daughter for the first time 00:10:02.099 --> 00:10:09.226 , she she looked like a little bean. And we didn't know what she was or 00:10:09.259 --> 00:10:12.145 whether she was a boy or girl, and they kept, uh, it was too early at the 00:10:12.178 --> 00:10:17.086 time for us to know if she was a boy or girl. And after the ultrasound 00:10:17.119 --> 00:10:21.157 when we saw her and saw her move and we saw her she was too young to hear 00:10:21.190 --> 00:10:25.407 her heartbeat, but we did have a uh an image of her at the end of the trip 00:10:25.440 --> 00:10:31.015 when we came back from Winslow. And it was after that we were just talking 00:10:31.048 --> 00:10:34.217 about it, my boyfriend and I, whether if we want to find out if we're 00:10:34.250 --> 00:10:39.667 having a boy or if we're having a girl. Um, what we prefer or whether or 00:10:39.700 --> 00:10:43.895 not what we were hoping for, but we decided that we wanted to keep it a 00:10:43.928 --> 00:10:47.856 secret. We don't want to know if our baby was going to be or boy or girl. 00:10:47.889 --> 00:10:51.927 So this entire time there my whole pregnancy, I never knew until she was 00:10:51.960 --> 00:10:59.960 born of who I was having. So that that was actually fun. How was the um 00:11:01.570 --> 00:11:05.025 pregnancy part? I mean, did you gain a lot of weight? Did you have nausea 00:11:05.058 --> 00:11:07.096 ? 00:11:07.129 --> 00:11:12.557 The pregnancy when I found out or when I was pregnant with my daughter, I 00:11:12.590 --> 00:11:14.635 felt. 00:11:14.668 --> 00:11:19.706 Oh gosh, I, it was funny. I gained weight, but it was, um, as I was 00:11:19.739 --> 00:11:23.226 reading your the your husband or your boyfriend or whoever we're supposed 00:11:23.259 --> 00:11:26.346 to like they're supposedly supposed to be gaining sympathy weight with you 00:11:26.379 --> 00:11:30.826 or some of them do, but it was funny because at the time I was going back 00:11:30.859 --> 00:11:34.331 and forth between my house and my boyfriend. Friend's college and his 00:11:34.364 --> 00:11:37.451 roommate actually was a really good friend of ours throughout high school 00:11:37.484 --> 00:11:40.971 as well, and he was the one picking up my sympathy symptoms. He was 00:11:41.004 --> 00:11:44.010 telling me he's like, oh man, I'm getting sick by the meat, and he was 00:11:44.043 --> 00:11:46.770 telling me like, I really want some ice cream. So he'd come up and bring 00:11:46.803 --> 00:11:50.721 me ice cream or food and my boyfriend was just like, why you? What's wrong 00:11:50.754 --> 00:11:55.371 with you guys in a sense. And it was my, yeah, it was his roommate and our 00:11:55.404 --> 00:12:00.130 friend who was picking up my symptoms, my sympathy symptoms with me. So he 00:12:00.163 --> 00:12:03.746 gained weight with me. It was funny. How much weight did you put on? Oh 00:12:03.779 --> 00:12:11.586 gosh, I gained, I found out about. I gained about 30 to, no, no, I gained 00:12:11.619 --> 00:12:16.476 40 pounds is what I did, um. 00:12:16.509 --> 00:12:18.505 When 00:12:18.538 --> 00:12:24.525 Before I was pregnant with my or before my pregnancy, I actually. 00:12:24.558 --> 00:12:31.596 Uh oh what was it? No, I was actually bad with a, I guess I didn't really. 00:12:31.629 --> 00:12:34.177 Since I didn't live with my parents, I was only living with my friends. 00:12:34.210 --> 00:12:37.976 We didn't really necessarily eat every like every 3 school or square meals 00:12:38.009 --> 00:12:43.907 a day. So it wasn't until I moved in with my boyfriend and I like I had a 00:12:43.940 --> 00:12:47.826 set set home that that they're telling me like, oh you don't eat 3 meals, 00:12:47.859 --> 00:12:51.537 but you're pregnant, so you have to eat, right? So my metabolism, my 00:12:51.570 --> 00:12:56.275 metabolism was really slow. And so when I actually started to eat like 3 00:12:56.308 --> 00:13:00.866 meals a day with with my uh with one of my pregnancy. I gained weight like 00:13:00.899 --> 00:13:04.015 crazy and I was freaking out. I'm like, oh my gosh, I only ate like this 00:13:04.048 --> 00:13:09.186 and it was like uh to have so much food was really new to me because I 00:13:09.219 --> 00:13:14.086 only ate like one meal a day at the time. And so I gained, yeah, I gained 00:13:14.119 --> 00:13:17.967 some weight and I think that was just because I really didn't eat right to 00:13:18.000 --> 00:13:22.047 begin with. So when I was pregnant, my in-laws made sure I was on top of 00:13:22.080 --> 00:13:25.645 it and with my meals and they were good about it. They gave me like really 00:13:25.678 --> 00:13:29.846 good nutritious meals like they made me like snacks, grapes, and they'll 00:13:29.879 --> 00:13:35.846 send me to my classes with bananas, apples, strawberries. I craved 00:13:35.879 --> 00:13:40.826 strawberries is what I always really liked and bagels. 00:13:40.859 --> 00:13:47.826 So, um, had you had an idea of the kind of birth you wanted to have? I, 00:13:47.859 --> 00:13:55.496 with the kind of birth I was already planning to have, or I wanted a Um, a 00:13:55.529 --> 00:13:58.326 kind of more. 00:13:58.359 --> 00:14:03.875 No, oh gosh, what is the term like I didn't want to meddle 00:14:03.908 --> 00:14:08.076 or I didn't want like an epidural or any like medications like that. I 00:14:08.109 --> 00:14:12.407 just wanted her to be natural and hopefully without complications of a 00:14:12.440 --> 00:14:16.005 C-section, but I really wanted just a normal pregnancy or like a normal 00:14:16.038 --> 00:14:21.946 birthing pregnancy, so. The kind of birthing process I was planning, and I 00:14:21.979 --> 00:14:27.826 was trying to prepare myself for was a. Um, just, just try to stay away 00:14:27.859 --> 00:14:31.265 from all the medical like an epidural. I didn't want an epidural. I knew 00:14:31.298 --> 00:14:37.407 that when I was pregnant with her and. I'm talking to my, what are they 00:14:37.440 --> 00:14:42.797 called midwives. Yes you had midwife was the midwife associated with the 00:14:42.830 --> 00:14:48.375 hospital? I had a midwife and she was associated with the hospital, I 00:14:48.408 --> 00:14:53.856 believe she was, she was really great um that was actually once I 00:14:53.889 --> 00:14:58.775 transferred back from Winslow we got um I got accepted to be on a 00:14:58.808 --> 00:15:02.255 different access plan that would be covered in Flagstaff for my pregnancy 00:15:02.288 --> 00:15:06.135 because I was pregnant, so I was able to be seen in Flagstaff, which made 00:15:06.168 --> 00:15:10.015 things way more convenient and I got to be seen and I had this midwife 00:15:10.048 --> 00:15:14.557 doctor who was really, she was, she helped us through the entire pregnancy. 00:15:14.590 --> 00:15:20.875 And She actually made her way and cared for us because we were 17 or uh 00:15:20.908 --> 00:15:25.356 yeah, we were 18 and 18 at the time, so she was really taking their 00:15:25.389 --> 00:15:29.206 precautious steps around with us and telling us everything we need to know. 00:15:29.239 --> 00:15:33.746 So do you feel um confident going into the birth experience, or were you 00:15:33.779 --> 00:15:39.346 scared or what were your feelings? When I was going through the breathing 00:15:39.379 --> 00:15:44.336 process, yeah, like as it started to get closer, how are you feeling? As 00:15:44.369 --> 00:15:50.895 my pregnancy was nearing towards, I guess my 9 month mark, I felt more 00:15:50.928 --> 00:15:53.336 anxious and excited because my belly was getting bigger and bigger and I 00:15:53.369 --> 00:15:58.667 get to see her um I got to see my tummy grow and it was really cool and I 00:15:58.700 --> 00:16:02.297 was excited and I was scared at the same time because throughout 00:16:02.330 --> 00:16:05.746 everything, all my family members, all my friends who had children, 00:16:05.779 --> 00:16:09.417 they're telling me like it hurts, and they were scaring me to the point 00:16:09.450 --> 00:16:12.385 where he, you know, I heard some of my friends saying they needed the 00:16:12.418 --> 00:16:17.395 epidural, that's how bad it hurt and to the point where they made it 00:16:17.428 --> 00:16:22.706 really graphic for me and so I was kind of nervous. I was excited to see. 00:16:22.739 --> 00:16:26.907 Especially who was in my stomach the entire time I didn't know if I was 00:16:26.940 --> 00:16:32.566 having a boy or girl and. As well, I was nervous because I didn't know 00:16:32.599 --> 00:16:38.826 anything about the birthing process. So I was only. I was actually really 00:16:38.859 --> 00:16:45.246 nervous when uh as the time got near towards. 00:16:45.279 --> 00:16:51.015 The 9 month mark and she my daughter was due date was actually supposed to 00:16:51.048 --> 00:16:56.057 be in November is when they estimated so I was looking at November and my 00:16:56.090 --> 00:17:02.057 family actually did this hilarious thing where they placed bets to where 00:17:02.090 --> 00:17:06.815 we had a jar on top of the refrigerator and we had a, it was basically you 00:17:06.848 --> 00:17:12.216 pay a day. Of when do you think the baby's gonna come? So they stuck $1 in 00:17:12.249 --> 00:17:17.095 for either a Monday or Tuesday, and they stuck another $1 in for a boy, a 00:17:17.128 --> 00:17:22.147 girl, or it's a boy, it's a girl, and 00:17:22.180 --> 00:17:25.785 And oh they would just buy a week so like they'll throw $7 on if they 00:17:25.818 --> 00:17:29.065 wanted to buy a whole entire week like she's the baby's gonna come out on 00:17:29.098 --> 00:17:32.565 this day, so they bought the whole entire week. So we had this jar of cash 00:17:32.598 --> 00:17:36.387 going on top of the refrigerator and it was funny at the time and it 00:17:36.420 --> 00:17:40.347 helped lighten the mood, but I was still nervous and then kind of it was 00:17:40.380 --> 00:17:45.387 it was a humor. It was really humorous and it made tensions a little less 00:17:45.420 --> 00:17:49.357 higher and it was fun because my family got to see like who was right? Uh 00:17:49.390 --> 00:17:57.390 , yeah, so, um, when you got closer to that 9 month mark, um, how were you 00:17:58.299 --> 00:18:02.226 feeling physically? Were you, was it during the summer time? Was it hot? 00:18:02.259 --> 00:18:05.936 Was it cold? What was that? Yeah, 00:18:05.969 --> 00:18:13.305 actually, when I was pregnant with my daughter, I have a, or I'm I have 00:18:13.338 --> 00:18:17.107 poor circulation, so I get cold really easily. So when I was pregnant with 00:18:17.140 --> 00:18:19.785 my daughter, I was reading like your blood temperature goes up a little 00:18:19.818 --> 00:18:23.825 bit or your temperature and your body runs a little tad bit higher, uh, 00:18:23.858 --> 00:18:29.075 and I was miserable because I do not like the heat at all, so I had either 00:18:29.108 --> 00:18:32.906 my boyfriend sleeping right next to me or I had the dog right next to me 00:18:32.939 --> 00:18:36.946 or I had something really or somebody really close. I really hated that 00:18:36.979 --> 00:18:40.147 because I felt like it was just too hot. So sleeping was very 00:18:40.180 --> 00:18:48.180 uncomfortable for me. And I was really, oh gosh, I was really emotional 00:18:48.219 --> 00:18:52.226 over like the littlest things that was funny. I found out that I wouldn't 00:18:52.259 --> 00:18:56.936 be really Upset about, but it was either something like a sonic drink I'd 00:18:56.969 --> 00:19:00.776 get upset about and worked up and it was my brothers and my boyfriend who 00:19:00.809 --> 00:19:04.256 had to take the beating for it. And then I had to think to myself, I'm 00:19:04.289 --> 00:19:08.575 like, why is everything, why am I so hormonal? Why am I so sad? Why am I 00:19:08.608 --> 00:19:14.815 so happy? Why do I want to like slap you half the time. So during my 00:19:14.848 --> 00:19:20.857 pregnancy, my emotional state was really. It was, I had a lot of ups and 00:19:20.890 --> 00:19:24.496 downs, which was, now that I look back at it, it was funny because I'm 00:19:24.529 --> 00:19:27.535 glad I had my boyfriend and my brothers that were there to take the 00:19:27.568 --> 00:19:33.506 emotional beating and to be supportive with me. Um, so had you had your 00:19:33.539 --> 00:19:36.585 mother planned on being there with you or your boyfriend in in the 00:19:36.618 --> 00:19:44.467 delivery room? Uh, during the delivery. And before my actual pregnancy 00:19:44.500 --> 00:19:48.706 when my daughter was gonna be delivered my my boyfriend and I really want 00:19:48.739 --> 00:19:53.847 to plan actually to where it's just gonna be us, and he really wanted it 00:19:53.880 --> 00:19:58.156 to be where it was just the um just the two of us and when our child's 00:19:58.189 --> 00:20:03.555 born it would be a 3. and my mother and his mother really protested 00:20:03.588 --> 00:20:09.397 against that and I actually did not care. I just wanted to have a 00:20:09.430 --> 00:20:13.656 successful healthy baby and and pretty easy birth that I wasn't 00:20:13.689 --> 00:20:18.516 traumatized to to what people were telling me it was gonna be like so I 00:20:18.549 --> 00:20:23.075 did want the support of my mother there but at the time actually my mother. 00:20:23.108 --> 00:20:28.627 She was in uh Phoenix and she was actually uh in rehab. So she had to, 00:20:28.660 --> 00:20:32.467 she was in Phoenix going back and forth from Flagstaff to Phoenix to come 00:20:32.500 --> 00:20:37.857 check on me and So she wanted to be there really bad, but I know uh as the 00:20:37.890 --> 00:20:40.976 date was getting closer, she, uh, it wouldn't be predicted if she was 00:20:41.009 --> 00:20:46.575 going to be there or not. And I got to meet my mother-in-law and a lot of 00:20:46.608 --> 00:20:49.397 daughter-in-laws fear their mother-in-laws, especially because I was so 00:20:49.430 --> 00:20:53.726 young and My mother-in-law was really intimidating to me at the time, but 00:20:53.759 --> 00:20:57.526 she was really sweet and she was really comforting and she was there for 00:20:57.559 --> 00:21:01.526 me when my mom wasn't able to be there for me, so she provided a lot of 00:21:01.559 --> 00:21:04.486 support through that as well through through my pregnancy, my 00:21:04.519 --> 00:21:12.519 mother-in-law provided a lot of support, um. And so actually as the 00:21:13.670 --> 00:21:20.506 contractions started early in the morning, I'd say about 3 o'clock. 00:21:20.539 --> 00:21:25.696 In the morning I felt a hard contraction and it was so uncomfortable that 00:21:25.729 --> 00:21:28.897 I woke up in the middle of the night. I went to the restroom and that's 00:21:28.930 --> 00:21:33.416 when I noticed like this bloody discharge and I was like, oh, I read this 00:21:33.449 --> 00:21:37.295 in the book. So I come back into the room and I wake up my boyfriend. I'm 00:21:37.328 --> 00:21:41.607 like, hey, I think I had that um the mucus plug is I I'm not too sure what 00:21:41.640 --> 00:21:46.176 that's called. The mucus plug came out and 00:21:46.209 --> 00:21:49.196 So that's when he got up. He was like, Oh, you're feeling fine? And I told 00:21:49.229 --> 00:21:53.176 him I was feeling fine right now, but I just wanted to let you know that 00:21:53.209 --> 00:21:58.176 you know it's probably gonna happen pretty soon. So surprisingly, I 00:21:58.209 --> 00:22:02.647 actually went back to sleep so I didn't feel anything uncomfortable until 00:22:02.680 --> 00:22:07.266 3 hours later, around 6 o'clock or 2 hours later, around 5 o'clock I felt 00:22:07.299 --> 00:22:11.137 another contraction and that's when I got up and I, I woke my boyfriend up 00:22:11.170 --> 00:22:15.256 and I told him I can't go back to sleep. This is really consistent so. He 00:22:15.289 --> 00:22:18.696 got up and he went in and told his mother that we're most likely gonna 00:22:18.729 --> 00:22:24.035 have to go to the hospital now and. She came in and she was ready. She got 00:22:24.068 --> 00:22:28.315 her jacket on and she was um early in the morning, she got her jacket on, 00:22:28.348 --> 00:22:31.565 she got everything ready. And she was ready to help me go to the hospital 00:22:31.598 --> 00:22:35.446 , but my boyfriend protested, saying like, you know, you have to take my 00:22:35.479 --> 00:22:38.805 younger sister to school first, you're not going to be able to go there. 00:22:38.838 --> 00:22:44.085 And if you do, he was just bringing up a bunch of excuses and I was at the 00:22:44.118 --> 00:22:48.436 time sitting on this medicine ball or the this therapy ball on the floor 00:22:48.469 --> 00:22:52.647 bouncing up and down, listening to them argue and bicker, and I'm like, 00:22:52.680 --> 00:22:58.647 I'm in, I'm in pain. I was just really hurts. I need, can we please go to 00:22:58.680 --> 00:23:02.847 the hospital soon? And they were arguing whether if she wants, uh, she 00:23:02.880 --> 00:23:06.166 wants to, she wanted to come with us, and he was saying like we have, we 00:23:06.199 --> 00:23:10.285 have, we have to go now. So they argued for about a good 20 minutes while 00:23:10.318 --> 00:23:13.785 I was sitting on this ball on the floor watching them argue when my 00:23:13.818 --> 00:23:19.026 contractions were hitting. And once my mother-in-law finally threw in the 00:23:19.059 --> 00:23:24.545 towel, I guess, she, she told us that she'll call us as soon as uh for us 00:23:24.578 --> 00:23:29.585 to call her when we made it to the hospital. During the hospital stay 00:23:29.618 --> 00:23:34.186 actually, or we checked into the emergency room, uh, they told us that I 00:23:34.219 --> 00:23:40.246 was going through, I was going through the delivery process, I believe. 00:23:40.279 --> 00:23:46.305 Wait, I forgot my terms. You're in labor. I was going into labor, so. So 00:23:46.338 --> 00:23:50.347 they come out with this wheelchair and they took incredible care of us 00:23:50.380 --> 00:23:52.147 because they, oh, I was waiting for you to bring that up. What is it? So 00:23:52.180 --> 00:24:00.180 we'll retract right before the whole 3 months pregnancy, 00:24:07.039 --> 00:24:07.986 you got a UTI and landed you in the hospital. OK, I'm just gonna say that 00:24:08.019 --> 00:24:12.416 Steven Yazi, the boyfriend. 00:24:12.449 --> 00:24:19.736 I totally was rushing this. OK, no. OK. So actually, I, we came across a 00:24:19.769 --> 00:24:25.647 complications with my pregnancy and it was when Oh gosh, I believe I was 00:24:25.680 --> 00:24:31.785 probably 5 months along in my pregnancy and I got this UTI infection and 00:24:31.818 --> 00:24:35.736 they were just telling me to take care, or just like to drink plenty of 00:24:35.769 --> 00:24:39.815 fluids. They gave me antibiotics and it never got better. It got to the 00:24:39.848 --> 00:24:44.377 point where I actually felt really sick that I couldn't keep anything down. 00:24:44.410 --> 00:24:48.256 I was throwing up just whatever it was in my stomach. It was either the 00:24:48.289 --> 00:24:52.585 food I ate, mucus, or just the stomach acid, and it was continuously, I 00:24:52.618 --> 00:24:57.756 couldn't stop throwing up. And during that time, my boyfriend and my 00:24:57.789 --> 00:25:00.236 family were really concerned because that's when they saw that I was 00:25:00.269 --> 00:25:03.156 losing a bunch of weight and actually to the point where I was almost at 00:25:03.189 --> 00:25:07.357 my pre-weight before I was pregnant. So I had this big belly and it looked 00:25:07.390 --> 00:25:10.996 like I wasn't even pregnant at the time because I couldn't hold anything 00:25:11.029 --> 00:25:15.416 in, and I actually 00:25:15.449 --> 00:25:21.456 My temperature was running so high that I felt cold rather than actually 00:25:21.489 --> 00:25:24.877 that I was running a fever. So I felt like I had the chills and I kept 00:25:24.910 --> 00:25:28.295 telling everybody I was cold. I felt I had to put a jacket on, but it was 00:25:28.328 --> 00:25:31.627 really hot in the middle of the summer. It was, yeah, it was in the middle 00:25:31.660 --> 00:25:35.285 of July and I was telling them I was freezing. So I'd try to take warm 00:25:35.318 --> 00:25:38.926 baths or um I would try to take a hot shower and I wouldn't be able to get 00:25:38.959 --> 00:25:45.426 rid of this chill. And it was actually when I had to go to a prenatal 00:25:45.459 --> 00:25:49.696 visit that was coming up. So it was bad on my part that I waited until my 00:25:49.729 --> 00:25:54.696 prenatal checkup. Uh, to see what was wrong. Once they, I went into my 00:25:54.729 --> 00:25:59.736 prenatal checkup, my midwife doctor actually checked on me and she took my 00:25:59.769 --> 00:26:02.656 temperature and she just stopped right there and she says, you need to go 00:26:02.689 --> 00:26:07.526 to the emergency room right now and So once I went to the emergency room, 00:26:07.559 --> 00:26:11.045 they already made everything clear there. And before that incident, when I 00:26:11.078 --> 00:26:16.565 first had my UTI, the doctor actually came, or the doctor before that, the 00:26:16.598 --> 00:26:20.967 first time I went to the hospital, told me it was just a a normal UTI and 00:26:21.000 --> 00:26:25.815 they gave me antibiotics and they sent me home. After, yeah, sorry, after 00:26:25.848 --> 00:26:29.055 , after that, that's when I started throwing up and I couldn't hold 00:26:29.088 --> 00:26:34.847 anything down. And so she sent me back to the hospital and I guess that's 00:26:34.880 --> 00:26:37.926 when all the nurses already recognized us and the doctors recognized us 00:26:37.959 --> 00:26:42.206 from the first time and that's when my temperature was up. So they had to 00:26:42.239 --> 00:26:46.137 bring my temp down. They had to give me some um Oh gosh, I didn't know 00:26:46.170 --> 00:26:49.776 what they gave me a lot, but it got to the point where they, like I 00:26:49.809 --> 00:26:53.335 couldn't walk. They even stuck a catheter in me and it was really 00:26:53.368 --> 00:26:57.976 upsetting for me because I couldn't do the basic basic stuff. And when I 00:26:58.009 --> 00:27:01.897 think back now, I was really embarrassed too because I had my boyfriend 00:27:01.930 --> 00:27:05.176 who was in the emergency room with me and he was freaking out the entire 00:27:05.209 --> 00:27:13.209 time and I felt like. But um, I felt, I don't know what's the word I. 00:27:13.809 --> 00:27:18.446 I guess I felt kind of embarrassed too because I didn't want anybody to 00:27:18.479 --> 00:27:21.325 see me in this kind of state. I couldn't simply just walk up and use the 00:27:21.358 --> 00:27:25.085 restroom. I had to have this tube in me now and I had to have this tube 00:27:25.118 --> 00:27:28.926 that was pushing oxygen and like air through my lungs, and I, it was 00:27:28.959 --> 00:27:35.607 scaring everybody around me at the time and I really didn't. And like the 00:27:35.640 --> 00:27:40.647 best feeling or the the way I described it was I just felt really shut out. 00:27:40.680 --> 00:27:46.335 I didn't want anybody to see me like this and So during that time, it was 00:27:46.368 --> 00:27:50.526 really scary because the doctors and the nurses were really upset because 00:27:50.559 --> 00:27:52.967 the first time I came there, they should have been caught because it came 00:27:53.000 --> 00:27:56.097 back positive for some kind of strand that it was going, a blood infection 00:27:56.130 --> 00:28:01.236 is what it came to be. And it actually, the doctors when I first went to 00:28:01.269 --> 00:28:05.065 go see be seen by them, it came back positive, but they sent me home still 00:28:05.098 --> 00:28:08.795 and it got to the point where I had to be there. You didn't see a doctor 00:28:08.828 --> 00:28:11.676 at all remember we just saw a nurse and then those nurses and 00:28:11.709 --> 00:28:14.835 practitioners said, oh, you were fine, and then they they they just like, 00:28:14.868 --> 00:28:22.196 but but she she's sick and it yeah. And so all the nurses and uh they were 00:28:22.229 --> 00:28:26.426 doing their best they could and it was. We just got a lot of compliments 00:28:26.459 --> 00:28:28.926 though. I remember because they're saying like your boyfriend's so 00:28:28.959 --> 00:28:33.397 supportive, you two are so adorable, you two are so young and I was just 00:28:33.430 --> 00:28:36.186 freaking out the entire time, but they were being so comforting and they 00:28:36.219 --> 00:28:39.867 made everything adjust to where it was comforting and it was actually 00:28:39.900 --> 00:28:42.926 really scary during that time because like my temperature, if my 00:28:42.959 --> 00:28:47.516 temperature went any higher, yeah it would have been uh um basically the 00:28:47.549 --> 00:28:53.436 sor became a blood. It the UTI went into my blood system. It was going to 00:28:53.469 --> 00:28:58.285 , I believe they're saying affect my kidneys, and it would have gotten way 00:28:58.318 --> 00:29:02.085 much worse than that, and it was it would have been a blood poisoning, 00:29:02.118 --> 00:29:06.246 typically, I think. And uh I think the main thing too, that was like a 00:29:06.279 --> 00:29:10.486 double whammy was that she was pregnant, so her body put all of her immune 00:29:10.519 --> 00:29:16.107 systems and her immuno bodies to the baby. So, yeah, none of her, none of 00:29:16.140 --> 00:29:20.055 it was actually helping her, so she was already sick and she was staying 00:29:20.088 --> 00:29:23.097 sick because all the things were there helping the baby at the time. Were 00:29:23.130 --> 00:29:27.256 you scared for the baby? I was terrified actually because that was the 00:29:27.289 --> 00:29:29.897 main thing though like the baby's fine. They were really just concerned 00:29:29.930 --> 00:29:34.137 about my overall health and try to get me back up because all the 00:29:34.170 --> 00:29:36.335 everything they gave me, they gave me a bunch of potassium because I was 00:29:36.368 --> 00:29:39.696 low in potassium. They gave me something to help me with my anemia because 00:29:39.729 --> 00:29:43.555 I was anemic already before my pregnancy. So they were trying to get me 00:29:43.588 --> 00:29:48.276 back up to my health and my daughter or the baby at the time, or yeah, the 00:29:48.309 --> 00:29:53.285 baby was fine. It was just like they were trying to get me back to going 00:29:53.318 --> 00:29:58.756 to where I could be able to get this giant mask off my face because it was 00:29:58.789 --> 00:30:03.726 pushing air through me and I hated that because it made my lips dry and I 00:30:03.759 --> 00:30:08.446 could feel it in my throat and my boyfriend was trying to shove ice 00:30:08.479 --> 00:30:13.486 through the cracks because it was just so bad and I actually, it was 00:30:13.519 --> 00:30:17.926 supposed to be an overnight stay, but it ended up to be 11 days long. I 00:30:17.959 --> 00:30:22.617 was staying in the hospital. And the only way they would would release me 00:30:22.650 --> 00:30:29.906 is if I had a, they had me had this. Oh gosh, it was like a. It was like a 00:30:29.939 --> 00:30:33.026 little ball. It was like a little tube thing that she breathed in and the 00:30:33.059 --> 00:30:36.305 ball moved up and they could scale and they could see if if you're up to 00:30:36.338 --> 00:30:39.746 right here, then that's just a normal person, but you need to be up here 00:30:39.779 --> 00:30:42.186 showing that you can breathe normally on a normal function basis like 00:30:42.219 --> 00:30:45.226 every day to day like at the lowest point, that's like someone who has 00:30:45.259 --> 00:30:48.397 like 50 years of like smoking cigarettes and that's where she was like 00:30:48.430 --> 00:30:52.305 full on air, so I know exactly what that is. So how did you, did you get 00:30:52.338 --> 00:30:56.916 to that point? Like, explain that. I was getting. 00:30:56.949 --> 00:31:02.676 They gave me that or this oh gosh, I forgot what it was called, but this 00:31:02.709 --> 00:31:07.357 air device, they gave me this tube to kind of help practice like oh you 00:31:07.390 --> 00:31:10.835 need to be breathing through this and you gotta try to get this ball on a 00:31:10.868 --> 00:31:15.996 scare I think it was like a scale from like 1 to 20 is what it was scaled 00:31:16.029 --> 00:31:19.357 at, but they were telling me once you get that little ball up at least 00:31:19.390 --> 00:31:24.315 past 15, then you're OK. So I every day I'd keep trying but I had to. I 00:31:24.348 --> 00:31:27.597 only got it at the bare minimum and I was looking at that I'm like I like 00:31:27.630 --> 00:31:30.597 I swear I could blow through this, but I like my lungs weren't working 00:31:30.630 --> 00:31:34.436 with me and I was really anxious to try to get out of the hospital because 00:31:34.469 --> 00:31:38.835 I've always been hospitalized since I was little, so it was, it was no fun. 00:31:38.868 --> 00:31:44.315 And when I finally got to the point where everything was clear and 00:31:44.348 --> 00:31:48.756 everything came back positive that I was OK and I got rebound or I, I kind 00:31:48.789 --> 00:31:52.035 of just came back up and it perked back up. That's when they were ready to 00:31:52.068 --> 00:31:55.897 discharge me. When I actually weighed myself, or they weighed me before I 00:31:55.930 --> 00:32:00.016 was getting checked out, I was like uh 5 pounds off from my my my my 00:32:00.049 --> 00:32:04.496 pre-weight actually. So I lost a lot of weight during that stay within 00:32:04.529 --> 00:32:10.476 that, it was only like a two week process but All of that was scary 00:32:10.509 --> 00:32:14.967 actually, cause I. I didn't look like I was pregnant and I just see this 00:32:15.000 --> 00:32:19.887 giant this giant belly and I was scared because I didn't know whether or 00:32:19.920 --> 00:32:23.847 not I was really concerned of how the baby was and all the medication they 00:32:23.880 --> 00:32:29.006 were doing and what they were giving me that I was hoping that it didn't 00:32:29.039 --> 00:32:32.887 affect the baby at all because I was during my diet when I was pregnant, I 00:32:32.920 --> 00:32:36.045 tried to keep everything clean. I didn't try to drink a lot of soda. I 00:32:36.078 --> 00:32:40.666 didn't do a lot of those like. Um, I didn't do a lot of bad foods. I 00:32:40.699 --> 00:32:44.857 always try to eat healthy or I try to stay away from certain things. And 00:32:44.890 --> 00:32:47.746 so when they gave me all this medication, I was just really worried 00:32:47.779 --> 00:32:52.867 actually for my child. Could you feel the baby moving at this point? I did 00:32:52.900 --> 00:32:56.496 feel her moving. That's or doing when I was in the hospital stay, I felt 00:32:56.529 --> 00:32:59.627 my daughter moving and I think that was like really comforting along with 00:32:59.660 --> 00:33:02.916 my boyfriend and my brothers being there checking on me. That was what 00:33:02.949 --> 00:33:09.006 really helped me and helped me recover afterwards too when I got out of 00:33:09.039 --> 00:33:11.996 the hospital, but during that time when I was in the hospital feeling her 00:33:12.029 --> 00:33:18.506 move was Just knowing I was going to make it, she was gonna make it, and I 00:33:18.539 --> 00:33:22.107 was excited when I got out of the hospital finally. Yeah, I think at that 00:33:22.140 --> 00:33:27.607 point it was just kind of like. It was really um Like she really put her 00:33:27.640 --> 00:33:30.647 all into the pregnancy as far as um taking care of herself, like, like 00:33:30.680 --> 00:33:34.406 every single day we went for walks and she kept active, like, you know, we 00:33:34.439 --> 00:33:37.805 hear about some pregnant woman, like just from my mom saying that I, you 00:33:37.838 --> 00:33:40.176 know, some people get pregnant and they just stay in the couch not doing 00:33:40.209 --> 00:33:43.285 anything, they have a really hard delivery, so we made it upon ourselves 00:33:43.318 --> 00:33:46.006 and she was the main one that made it upon herself to make sure that we 00:33:46.039 --> 00:33:48.726 had an active lifestyle, even though we were pregnant, you know, she was 00:33:48.759 --> 00:33:53.420 pregnant. Did your mother-in-law kind of coach you on, you know, Healthy 00:33:53.453 --> 00:33:57.940 ways and what it's gonna be like and all that. Uh, 00:33:57.973 --> 00:34:04.502 my mother-in-law actually helps by telling me what to expect like, oh like 00:34:04.535 --> 00:34:07.940 the graphic site of like what your body will, what will happen to your 00:34:07.973 --> 00:34:15.717 body, and she was coaching me basically on how Oh gosh, I don't think my 00:34:15.750 --> 00:34:19.865 family or my in-laws actually knew what the proper amount you're supposed 00:34:19.898 --> 00:34:23.595 to have when you were pregnant, so they just gave me a bunch of food, but 00:34:23.628 --> 00:34:26.756 they were pretty good about it except for my sister-in-law, which cooks, 00:34:26.789 --> 00:34:29.836 she tried to cook everything with butter. Like she was like, it's for the 00:34:29.869 --> 00:34:33.557 baby. Like, no, it's not. You're just, you, you're eating for two. That's 00:34:33.590 --> 00:34:36.796 always what I heard and they'll just give me these foods like you, I just 00:34:36.829 --> 00:34:40.836 need it, I think I, I think it was like you only needed 500 or 800 00:34:40.869 --> 00:34:46.405 additional. Calories, but they were giving me like 4 to 3 meals and like 00:34:46.438 --> 00:34:51.365 back to back, but my mother-in-law kept me consistently like but snacking 00:34:51.398 --> 00:34:54.084 on the healthy side and my sister-in-law was trying to feed me chocolate 00:34:54.117 --> 00:34:58.046 and everything else but it was it was really funny to see what each of 00:34:58.079 --> 00:35:03.477 them were doing, but my mother-in-law was really helpful and. It wasn't, 00:35:03.510 --> 00:35:09.747 yeah, it wasn't until they were arguing at the. They were arguing that he 00:35:09.780 --> 00:35:13.767 got to go to the hospital with me. So, so yeah, let's pick up there again. 00:35:13.800 --> 00:35:20.836 Oh yeah. How long was the drive? Were you close to the hospital? 00:35:20.869 --> 00:35:23.095 So 10 minutes away, yeah, we actually live not too far from the hospital. 00:35:23.128 --> 00:35:26.856 We're about like 10 minutes away, so it was like around 5 o'clock in the 00:35:26.889 --> 00:35:30.856 morning when we started heading up to the hospital. Once we got into the 00:35:30.889 --> 00:35:36.017 hospital and they took us into the labor, oh gosh, a small little area 00:35:36.050 --> 00:35:39.816 that's not quite the labor room, but they took us in the small triage. 00:35:39.849 --> 00:35:43.526 They took us in the small triage room. And they were monitoring us 00:35:43.559 --> 00:35:46.546 everything was fine and the nurses recognized us from when the first time 00:35:46.579 --> 00:35:49.195 I was in the hospital and they're like, oh my gosh, you guys are back. Are 00:35:49.228 --> 00:35:53.006 you excited? I wanted they just kept asking all these questions and they 00:35:53.039 --> 00:35:56.646 were so happy and they saw that my boyfriend was still there and they were 00:35:56.679 --> 00:36:01.236 super excited and they were just. Adorable. They were so helpful. They 00:36:01.269 --> 00:36:06.396 kept offering Stephen juice packets and crackers, and they're checking on 00:36:06.429 --> 00:36:09.756 him as much as they were checking on me and they were giving us the best 00:36:09.789 --> 00:36:13.077 care that they possibly ever could from that last scare that we had in the 00:36:13.110 --> 00:36:18.717 hospital and it was strange actually they told us that the pregnancy was 00:36:18.750 --> 00:36:24.876 gonna take like I probably wouldn't deliver my baby until maybe 5 or 6 00:36:24.909 --> 00:36:29.146 o'clock or 5 o'clock in the evening. And so we're there at 5 o'clock, like 00:36:29.179 --> 00:36:33.626 , oh jeez, we got like 12 hours left. So they checked my, how far along I 00:36:33.659 --> 00:36:39.385 was dilated. I came into the hospital when I was 4 m dilated and they're 00:36:39.418 --> 00:36:43.615 like, oh yeah, it'll be a while. So they come back again 20 minutes later 00:36:43.648 --> 00:36:46.865 and they checked me and I jumped to 6. It's like, oh wow, OK, so once you 00:36:46.898 --> 00:36:51.186 get to, I think they were saying 7 or 8, they'll take me into the actual 00:36:51.219 --> 00:36:56.776 labor room and by that time it was like close to 8 o'clock. Oh no, it had 00:36:56.809 --> 00:37:00.686 to be like around 8 o'clock. That's when they checked on me and then. They 00:37:00.719 --> 00:37:04.526 came back again and they saw me shot up to 8 centimeters dilated and 00:37:04.559 --> 00:37:07.727 they're like, holy cow, let's get you in the labor room, and they took me 00:37:07.760 --> 00:37:12.086 in there and I stayed in there for a while like, oh jeez, it was really we 00:37:12.119 --> 00:37:15.816 got this nice labor room 00:37:15.849 --> 00:37:18.925 and I don't. Like they knew who we were. They messed up on their thing 00:37:18.958 --> 00:37:22.526 when they like when they messed up her UTI and they're like, we better 00:37:22.559 --> 00:37:26.206 show these guys some good quality pregnancy room. Like our window had like 00:37:26.239 --> 00:37:29.977 the perfect image of the peaks, and then there's like birds and deers 00:37:30.010 --> 00:37:35.925 outside and like it was nice. OK, how about you describe. 00:37:35.958 --> 00:37:40.307 So when we went into labor room, the labor room, they actually gave us 00:37:40.340 --> 00:37:46.865 this really nice big labor room. And it even had a, oh gosh, those cool 00:37:46.898 --> 00:37:50.986 little baths, those jet baths they have in there, and my boyfriend at the 00:37:51.019 --> 00:37:53.865 time was looking around at the other labor rooms so ours is the nicest one 00:37:53.898 --> 00:37:58.227 in the hospital right now, and he was all super happy checking on there, 00:37:58.260 --> 00:38:01.146 like looking at all the cool fancy things that we have in our room, and I 00:38:01.179 --> 00:38:05.586 was like, I'm in pain. My contractions are hurting and that's when my 00:38:05.619 --> 00:38:09.046 contractions were more intense. And my boyfriend was just like, look at 00:38:09.079 --> 00:38:12.635 the view outside the window. It's the mountains, the San Francisco peaks, 00:38:12.668 --> 00:38:15.436 and during that time actually it was in October, so the leaves were 00:38:15.469 --> 00:38:17.986 changing on the mountains and it looked really gorgeous, but I couldn't 00:38:18.019 --> 00:38:24.026 really focus on how nice the mountains were looking and My boyfriend was 00:38:24.059 --> 00:38:26.986 actually like running around back and forth getting different things for 00:38:27.019 --> 00:38:30.986 me. He got me that, uh, the, oh gosh, the exercise ball, the giant 00:38:31.019 --> 00:38:34.945 inflatable ball because that helped me a lot when I was at home to help me 00:38:34.978 --> 00:38:38.586 sit through and practice some exercises, so that really helped a lot. So 00:38:38.619 --> 00:38:42.546 he brought that in and I tried bouncing on that and my contractions were 00:38:42.579 --> 00:38:46.066 hurting so hard, or they were hurting so bad actually to the point where I 00:38:46.099 --> 00:38:51.517 felt like I couldn't do that, but um. I typically have a high pain 00:38:51.550 --> 00:38:55.756 tolerance, so I would try, like right after I didn't find the exercise 00:38:55.789 --> 00:38:59.316 while helping, I try to find something else. Like maybe I can walk, maybe 00:38:59.349 --> 00:39:02.796 walking will help relieve some pain or tension. So I tried walking and I 00:39:02.829 --> 00:39:06.635 stood up and nope, I can't walk, so I sat back down. And my boyfriend 00:39:06.668 --> 00:39:10.526 wanted to test out the bath, so he got the bath going on in the bathroom, 00:39:10.559 --> 00:39:15.166 and once I was in there, he stuck like half of the bottle of soap in there 00:39:15.199 --> 00:39:19.006 and it was like super bubbly and I was he was just excited to mess with it. 00:39:19.039 --> 00:39:23.267 So I hopped in there and that's when that's when I realized that my 00:39:23.300 --> 00:39:27.566 contractions felt little like they were more dull. My contractions felt 00:39:27.599 --> 00:39:30.327 more dull and they didn't feel as sharp and painful so I sat in there for 00:39:30.360 --> 00:39:36.046 like a good 10 minutes and it wasn't until Um, the doctors told us to like 00:39:36.079 --> 00:39:39.445 , hey, you know, now it's time for you to get into the bed, we'll check on 00:39:39.478 --> 00:39:44.756 you to see how far along you're dilated. And during that time actually 00:39:44.789 --> 00:39:49.206 they they they had me hop on the bed, I guess at the time they took my 00:39:49.239 --> 00:39:52.287 boyfriend into the hallway and the doctor took my boyfriend into the 00:39:52.320 --> 00:39:56.717 hallway, and my midwife showed up and I didn't know that yet. So I was 00:39:56.750 --> 00:39:59.557 sitting in the bed and I guess they were talking outside in the hallway 00:39:59.590 --> 00:40:03.557 that they were gonna break my water and I was actually like I think it's I 00:40:03.590 --> 00:40:08.115 was at the right dilation for them to break my water for me. And so he 00:40:08.148 --> 00:40:11.126 comes in and he's all super nice, but he looked really nervous, so he was 00:40:11.159 --> 00:40:13.717 on the side holding my hand and I didn't know what they were saying in the 00:40:13.750 --> 00:40:18.436 hallway. And my doctor came in and she tells me like, oh, well, right now 00:40:18.469 --> 00:40:21.896 you're gonna feel some pressure and I'm gonna put some pressure on your 00:40:21.929 --> 00:40:29.537 stomach just to feel how the baby is and to feel um I guess where you. 00:40:29.570 --> 00:40:32.736 She put her hand on my stomach to feel. Yeah, you must wait till it 00:40:32.769 --> 00:40:38.945 totally stops. OK, but she felt my, um, she put her hand on my stomach to 00:40:38.978 --> 00:40:43.267 feel how my, how the baby was doing and to show me like basically where 00:40:43.300 --> 00:40:47.227 I'm gonna be like where I'm gonna be feeling most pressure from and that's 00:40:47.260 --> 00:40:52.467 when she had me up on the table and she told me to kind of just relax and 00:40:52.500 --> 00:40:56.146 she was just talking to me like, OK, what I'm, what we're gonna do is she 00:40:56.179 --> 00:40:59.307 made it sound like it was gonna happen maybe at a certain time or she made 00:40:59.340 --> 00:41:03.186 it happen because I was already expecting 5 o'clock or 6 o'clock in the 00:41:03.219 --> 00:41:07.316 evening. Or I was thinking of a later time that I was actually gonna be 00:41:07.349 --> 00:41:13.106 having my child or going through the actual labor part, labor part, um. 00:41:13.139 --> 00:41:16.236 But when she was explaining this to me, she's like, well, when your water 00:41:16.269 --> 00:41:18.916 breaks and she broke my water and she was telling me this, I'm like, oh my 00:41:18.949 --> 00:41:23.236 God, my water broke, and she broke it and I that's when my contractions 00:41:23.269 --> 00:41:28.115 hurt the most, I believe because it just felt like raw, like some raw 00:41:28.148 --> 00:41:31.316 pressure just pressing against me with no, at least with my water, I felt 00:41:31.349 --> 00:41:34.316 like there was some cushion or barrier with those contractions, but I just 00:41:34.349 --> 00:41:40.896 felt the contractions full on and they were really painful. And once I 00:41:40.929 --> 00:41:44.546 realized I'm like holy cow, she broke my water and reading all the books I 00:41:44.579 --> 00:41:50.046 read about like this is it, this is the actual labor part, so it. I was 00:41:50.079 --> 00:41:53.006 completely clueless until she broke my water and then she was just telling 00:41:53.039 --> 00:41:58.646 me like what the process was and to actually start to push and my 00:41:58.679 --> 00:42:01.126 boyfriend was freaking out but he was trying to stay there on the side and 00:42:01.159 --> 00:42:04.807 he was telling me he's like, good job, you're doing a great job and he was 00:42:04.840 --> 00:42:09.845 trying to make phone calls at the same time and one of the nurses that got 00:42:09.878 --> 00:42:14.256 really close with us recognized us, but she was so sweet. She actually. Um 00:42:14.289 --> 00:42:18.796 , got one of those, uh, got a camera, so she was taking pictures of us the 00:42:18.829 --> 00:42:26.756 entire time, and It wasn't until, oh well, the doctor broke my water at 00:42:26.789 --> 00:42:33.477 exactly 10 o'clock. So the active the active labor part of me actually Me 00:42:33.510 --> 00:42:41.510 pushing my daughter out was 26 minutes long, so. When my daughter was when 00:42:45.349 --> 00:42:48.486 all everything kind of just stopped for a moment. I remember when I was 00:42:48.519 --> 00:42:54.816 pushing, I felt just this immediate pressure come off and for a split 00:42:54.849 --> 00:43:01.385 second my everything was quiet and the doctors were quiet and they just I 00:43:01.418 --> 00:43:05.787 was nervous with that tension that was for a little bit of the room being 00:43:05.820 --> 00:43:12.026 quiet, but uh that's when I heard my daughter sneeze and they were looking 00:43:12.059 --> 00:43:14.856 at us and they just crack up and they're like, oh yeah, she's breathing 00:43:14.889 --> 00:43:20.546 and she's when she sneezed we heard her cry and her cry was so it was so 00:43:20.579 --> 00:43:25.646 new. It was nothing I never thought I would ever. It was like a unique 00:43:25.679 --> 00:43:29.876 sound of just some like somebody that was with me this entire 9 months in 00:43:29.909 --> 00:43:34.807 my stomach and I Once I heard her sneeze, it was so it was this tiny 00:43:34.840 --> 00:43:42.077 little sneeze sound. I and followed by this little just cry and the my 00:43:42.110 --> 00:43:45.166 boyfriend was already he beat me already around there he was just like 00:43:45.199 --> 00:43:50.037 looking and he was wanting to hold her, but the doctor looked at her um 00:43:50.070 --> 00:43:54.376 like. And my boyfriend said like, oh yeah, I guess who, uh, I guess you're 00:43:54.409 --> 00:43:59.655 , I guess whoever won the bet with a uh whoever planned to or whoever had 00:43:59.688 --> 00:44:07.175 won the bet of a girl, basically, but like, oh yeah, so. They were super 00:44:07.208 --> 00:44:15.208 happy. When Oh gosh, I can't even talk right now. OK, but. 00:44:17.000 --> 00:44:23.546 When The doctor actually saw my daughter and she was really excited so 00:44:23.579 --> 00:44:26.865 because like she was really sweet and she kept commenting how young we 00:44:26.898 --> 00:44:31.586 were at the time and so she's like oh yeah so you guys you guys have your 00:44:31.619 --> 00:44:34.307 surprise you got to meet your daughter and when she put my daughter in my 00:44:34.340 --> 00:44:39.646 hands I just. I don't know it was this really. 00:44:39.679 --> 00:44:43.445 Every book I've read as much as I want to say I like I try to mentally 00:44:43.478 --> 00:44:48.986 prepare myself and when I look back, taking care of my brothers and try to 00:44:49.019 --> 00:44:53.345 be bothering to them and try to mentally prepare myself, I thought I 00:44:53.378 --> 00:44:56.916 already knew how it was gonna be like, but I didn't know until the exact 00:44:56.949 --> 00:45:02.537 moment. My daughter touched my arms and I was holding her and she was 00:45:02.570 --> 00:45:08.356 quiet for me. She just um she stopped crying and she was this little 00:45:08.389 --> 00:45:13.175 swallowed up in this bundle and when I looked at her and when I when she 00:45:13.208 --> 00:45:16.925 touched my arms I didn't know how to explain it so much but I just 00:45:16.958 --> 00:45:20.736 remembered I just felt these tears coming down my face and I had no 00:45:20.769 --> 00:45:26.557 control over them. But when I felt them come upon me. I just looked at her 00:45:26.590 --> 00:45:32.956 and I was so excited to finally meet who was 00:45:32.989 --> 00:45:37.876 who was going through changes with me at the time and I finally got to 00:45:37.909 --> 00:45:41.236 meet her for the first time and the first thing I hear from her is a 00:45:41.269 --> 00:45:48.106 sneeze and the first image I see of her is just this calm face and. 00:45:48.139 --> 00:45:52.467 All the features I didn't really know that were developing inside me, her 00:45:52.500 --> 00:45:59.827 nose, her tiny eyes, lips, and everything was so tiny. And when I was 00:45:59.860 --> 00:46:06.405 looking at her. I was very, very excited and happy that I finally have her 00:46:06.438 --> 00:46:12.878 in my arms and through everything I've gone through, um, I've gone through. 00:46:13.079 --> 00:46:15.079 Oh gosh, an emotional abuse through my childhood. I've been through 00:46:18.659 --> 00:46:24.486 physical abuse through my childhood and I've been through. Um, 00:46:24.519 --> 00:46:31.077 I had no home. I had to live with my friends at the time, and I had to go 00:46:31.110 --> 00:46:36.486 through therapy and counseling because I have all the, I guess, this abuse 00:46:36.519 --> 00:46:42.997 I've been through way before. I was pregnant, but when I looked at my 00:46:43.030 --> 00:46:48.517 daughter like none of those things that mattered anymore. I have her now 00:46:48.550 --> 00:46:53.916 and she pushed me a lot to strive to be who I wanted to be. I know I 00:46:53.949 --> 00:46:57.316 didn't want to put her through anything that I had to go through. I know 00:46:57.349 --> 00:47:02.646 that I had to show her everything I've been wanting to. I want to show her 00:47:02.679 --> 00:47:06.717 the best things in this world and I wanna be able to protect her from 00:47:06.750 --> 00:47:10.686 everything and I wanna be able to grow with me because I'm still learning 00:47:10.719 --> 00:47:16.925 too and just having her there I realized everything I've gone through 00:47:16.958 --> 00:47:20.845 everything that every negatives in my life that has come across, it didn't 00:47:20.878 --> 00:47:24.566 matter, it didn't exist and at that time it was only the three of us in 00:47:24.599 --> 00:47:29.827 that room. It was. My family in that room and that's when I knew my future 00:47:29.860 --> 00:47:37.860 was gonna start was with her right there. That's really good. 00:47:38.619 --> 00:47:41.037 Um, 00:47:41.070 --> 00:47:45.316 Yeah, that's really powerful, you know, and I love this concept of growing 00:47:45.349 --> 00:47:49.717 together. You know, no one's used that phrase before and it's so true 00:47:49.750 --> 00:47:53.836 because you really are growing and changing together, you know, and you're 00:47:53.869 --> 00:47:59.276 becoming new people that now have this new family. Um, and how introducing 00:47:59.309 --> 00:48:03.077 that new life really does change that whole family unit, and it's like 00:48:03.110 --> 00:48:08.396 make this bond, right, that didn't exist at the same depth, you know, you 00:48:08.429 --> 00:48:13.546 really articulated that beautifully. Yeah. Is there anything else you want 00:48:13.579 --> 00:48:18.425 to add? A lot of times we'll ask people like towards the end, is there a 00:48:18.458 --> 00:48:22.706 word or phrasing of words that kind of summarizes your experience like 00:48:22.739 --> 00:48:30.739 when you reflect back on it. Um, Oh gosh. Reflecting back on it. 00:48:31.958 --> 00:48:36.445 I think now I have my daughter, she's 5 years old and she's gonna be 00:48:36.478 --> 00:48:41.925 starting kindergarten this year and looking through everything I've done 00:48:41.958 --> 00:48:47.967 with her and my boyfriend up till she was just in my stomach and thinking 00:48:48.000 --> 00:48:51.747 far back to where my boyfriend and I had to go through our ups and downs 00:48:51.780 --> 00:48:56.206 of when we first started seeing each other and I looked through it all and 00:48:56.239 --> 00:48:59.057 I realize. 00:48:59.090 --> 00:49:03.626 Um, as much as my, as much as my life, I thought at the time was really 00:49:03.659 --> 00:49:08.655 messed up and my mother being an alcoholic and I never really had a real 00:49:08.688 --> 00:49:14.186 home, but now having this something that I've created and something that I 00:49:14.219 --> 00:49:20.376 have all the good, the bad, the uglies. It doesn't really matter anymore 00:49:20.409 --> 00:49:25.095 now because it it really just matters what you do with it today and what 00:49:25.128 --> 00:49:30.256 you wanna handle it. I really don't wanna go back to thinking of anything 00:49:30.289 --> 00:49:33.776 of the world owes me anything because it does the world doesn't owe me 00:49:33.809 --> 00:49:37.497 anything at all. It's what it kind of what I make with it with my family 00:49:37.530 --> 00:49:44.727 so now she's my motivation, my motivation she she's there to remind me. To 00:49:44.760 --> 00:49:47.526 take my keys if Mom, do you have your keys? Do you have your wallet? Do 00:49:47.559 --> 00:49:51.217 you have your phone? Mom, do you have my lunch? And I'm like, oh yeah, 00:49:51.250 --> 00:49:54.566 thank you. I'll forget something on the table now here and there, and 00:49:54.599 --> 00:49:57.767 she'll remind me and she'll help me and I'm looking at this and now I have 00:49:57.800 --> 00:50:03.006 something to strive with and now I'm growing with her and I get to 00:50:03.039 --> 00:50:07.486 experience all these things with her and I get, I'm the one that's able to 00:50:07.519 --> 00:50:14.856 show her all these first time experiences, so. It's very exciting and 00:50:14.889 --> 00:50:22.889 having her now in my family, I feel. That no matter how bad everything 00:50:23.250 --> 00:50:27.816 must seem, you know, this tiniest thing, or there's always good in 00:50:27.849 --> 00:50:31.256 something, no matter how small, that's always something I strived and held 00:50:31.289 --> 00:50:35.477 on to that kept me going and it was her this entire time that's kind of 00:50:35.510 --> 00:50:40.727 made me who I am today and who pushes me and motivates me to do my best in 00:50:40.760 --> 00:50:46.706 everything I do. That's great, excellent. All right, would you like to add 00:50:46.739 --> 00:50:50.706 anything? Oh, it was. 00:50:50.739 --> 00:50:54.916 Emotional roller coaster through it all. It was, um, I guess like as far 00:50:54.949 --> 00:50:57.356 as like uh. 00:50:57.389 --> 00:51:01.675 When I, when we like when we found out and then when my family lectured me 00:51:01.708 --> 00:51:07.586 in um their own way, it was interesting just because. My mom was also a 00:51:07.619 --> 00:51:12.727 young teen mom as well. She had my older sister when she was 14 and had me 00:51:12.760 --> 00:51:19.247 when she was 16. So, and she came off the reservation, and she was still 00:51:19.280 --> 00:51:22.486 with, you know, she, she, she, she did everything with my dad and my dad 00:51:22.519 --> 00:51:25.327 was kind of like that leading figure, like, you know, they both had to 00:51:25.360 --> 00:51:28.445 work together, but they didn't do it for each other, they did it for their 00:51:28.478 --> 00:51:32.327 kids. And, you know, because of that, that helped me with that role model 00:51:32.360 --> 00:51:35.506 to like. Not give up to, you know, there's there's a lot of people out 00:51:35.539 --> 00:51:39.236 there that kind of give up on their kids and their family and. I just 00:51:39.269 --> 00:51:43.396 didn't want that for, for, for my family, that family that was, you know, 00:51:43.429 --> 00:51:46.916 that was slowly coming day after day and, you know, I stayed throughout 00:51:46.949 --> 00:51:51.316 the entire pregnancy. You know, we had ups and downs. We, you know, even 00:51:51.349 --> 00:51:55.635 after, you know, the pregnancy and after the birth, we still have ups and 00:51:55.668 --> 00:51:59.155 downs, but, you know, I think the main thing was just to keep going at it 00:51:59.188 --> 00:52:04.885 , you know, I think we both use each other and uh Natalie as our um. 00:52:04.918 --> 00:52:08.646 Motivation, I guess. And I think that's something that we have um we've 00:52:08.679 --> 00:52:14.086 really used my parents inspired me. She herself has inspired me through 00:52:14.119 --> 00:52:18.896 her own um. Her own stories that she's told me, I think just together we 00:52:18.929 --> 00:52:25.586 inspired ourselves, I mean. I mean, I just graduated um with two degrees, 00:52:25.619 --> 00:52:28.595 so I think it's just kind of like, you know, you can, you can show people 00:52:28.628 --> 00:52:32.595 that if you're devoted enough, you can be a young parent. There's these 00:52:32.628 --> 00:52:35.595 challenges, and it's not easy, but it's possible, and at the end of it, 00:52:35.628 --> 00:52:38.436 you can still get yourself educated, you can still get, you know, you can 00:52:38.469 --> 00:52:42.756 still end up on the high rope but just don't give up so easily, and I 00:52:42.789 --> 00:52:46.077 think that's just something that we've initiated in our own selves with 00:52:46.110 --> 00:52:51.945 great family support um with each other, and I think overall it was just 00:52:51.978 --> 00:52:59.978 You know, It was fun. So yeah, it was fun and I think um with, with like 00:53:00.820 --> 00:53:04.546 how she was telling the story, like the night of or the morning of the 00:53:04.579 --> 00:53:09.385 birth, everything ended up how it was supposed to end up. Like we, I 00:53:09.418 --> 00:53:12.546 didn't want my parents and anyone else. I didn't want her parents to be 00:53:12.579 --> 00:53:16.236 there because like you get enough nap in a room together. They'll start 00:53:16.269 --> 00:53:19.307 yelling and getting, they'll stare, everyone will get mad and say, you're 00:53:19.340 --> 00:53:22.425 not doing this, right? So I already knew how much stress that was gonna be 00:53:22.458 --> 00:53:25.896 , so I didn't want that. And they're all gonna be yelling at me cause I'm 00:53:25.929 --> 00:53:28.537 the guy and I have to be there, and I know I know I'm going to be there, 00:53:28.570 --> 00:53:31.736 but I kind of made it upon myself to say like, you know what, we're gonna 00:53:31.769 --> 00:53:35.256 do it ourselves. And it it ended up exactly how we wanted it, you know, it 00:53:35.289 --> 00:53:38.695 was just us in the delivery room. I told my, I called my parents afterward 00:53:38.728 --> 00:53:42.376 , after the birth, and they showed up within 20 minutes, cause I mean they 00:53:42.409 --> 00:53:47.416 work at the um they work here in Flagstaff, so they were able to make 00:53:47.449 --> 00:53:50.537 their way to the hospital pretty quickly. Her mom showed up later on that 00:53:50.570 --> 00:53:56.195 day, um. And then it was cool too because after the birth, I, I was only 00:53:56.228 --> 00:54:00.796 there for like about 8 hours and then I took off back home to clean up the 00:54:00.829 --> 00:54:06.037 entire room. I like, I, I, I vacuumed the carpet I extracted them. I got 00:54:06.070 --> 00:54:09.717 the baby center, uh, the baby area ready. I like I moved everything around. 00:54:09.750 --> 00:54:13.796 I took her younger brother with me to get everything ready and I didn't 00:54:13.829 --> 00:54:17.155 come back till like around 9 o'clock that night, back to the hospital. And 00:54:17.188 --> 00:54:20.436 she was, it was funny, one of the funniest comments to this day was funny. 00:54:20.469 --> 00:54:23.916 She's like, She's like, you know, Steven, I'm really tired. And I was 00:54:23.949 --> 00:54:26.186 like, yeah, of course you're tired. You just push out a baby. I didn't 00:54:26.219 --> 00:54:30.037 even woke up at 5 o'clock this morning. You've been up this entire time. 00:54:30.070 --> 00:54:33.956 She's like, Oh, I guess you're right. And it was just, it was just really 00:54:33.989 --> 00:54:36.717 funny. It's just the whole thing like ended up how it was. We got this 00:54:36.750 --> 00:54:41.997 great room, the birth was excellent, and the, the, the birthing time met 00:54:42.030 --> 00:54:48.155 up with the date of the day. She was born on 10/26 at 10:26. Can I get you 00:54:48.188 --> 00:54:53.017 to say that to her. I forgot to say how we thought of Natalie's name. OK, 00:54:53.050 --> 00:54:56.385 so 00:54:56.418 --> 00:55:02.865 when Natalie was born actually, it was October 26, 2010, and when they 00:55:02.898 --> 00:55:07.345 broke my water, it was at 10 o'clock and the actual labor of me pushing 00:55:07.378 --> 00:55:13.425 her was 26 minutes. So when we had her, she was born October 26th at 10:26 00:55:13.458 --> 00:55:20.646 a.m. and Oh my gosh, it matched up perfectly. The doctors and nurses were 00:55:20.679 --> 00:55:24.497 so cute. Again, they were like, oh my gosh, congratulations, you guys did 00:55:24.530 --> 00:55:28.057 it. They were holding her around. They, they wanted to hold her actually 00:55:28.090 --> 00:55:30.456 when they were done with everything, and they were really excited because 00:55:30.489 --> 00:55:36.066 they were really involved during the times we saw them in the hospital and 00:55:36.099 --> 00:55:40.376 when we thought of Natalie's name actually, it was really. 00:55:40.409 --> 00:55:46.456 We were thinking of names so like when we were pregnant with her as the 00:55:46.489 --> 00:55:49.695 date was getting closer, we were thinking of boy names and girl names and 00:55:49.728 --> 00:55:53.936 we didn't know what we wanted to call her her yet or him at the time. So 00:55:53.969 --> 00:55:57.416 we thought of boy names we liked, we thought of girl names we really liked 00:55:57.449 --> 00:56:02.706 and I spent actually, I realized a lot of time picking out a girl name 00:56:02.739 --> 00:56:10.739 than I did with a boy name and it wasn't until. Yeah It wasn't until she 00:56:11.030 --> 00:56:15.956 was born we realized that Natalie would be her name because we didn't know 00:56:15.989 --> 00:56:19.997 anybody by the name Natalie. We've never met a Natalie in our lives and I 00:56:20.030 --> 00:56:23.717 don't want to associate another like a face with a name so she could start 00:56:23.750 --> 00:56:29.436 her own her own story there and the reason why we named her middle name 00:56:29.469 --> 00:56:33.517 was really special was because her and I share a birthday week. She was 00:56:33.550 --> 00:56:40.146 born October 26th, my birthday is October 20th and. Autumn is my favorite 00:56:40.179 --> 00:56:44.227 time of the season. It's my favorite season. So we had this nice beautiful 00:56:44.260 --> 00:56:48.307 view of the Mayans, and it was autumn time, and so we knew her middle name 00:56:48.340 --> 00:56:54.686 was going to be autumn. So her full name is Natalie Adam Yazi, and it's 00:56:54.719 --> 00:56:58.247 nice now because I have a nice little ring, it has a ring to it, so when I 00:56:58.280 --> 00:57:03.280 get onto her and she knows she's in trouble, I can call her full name. 00:57:03.688 --> 00:57:05.688 That's great. Yeah, I love, I love that. I think autumn's a lovely name, 00:57:09.378 --> 00:57:15.796 time of year. Oh yeah, autumn. There you have it. 00:57:15.829 --> 00:57:19.986 All right. Anything else before we turn off? I do you think you have 00:57:20.019 --> 00:57:24.566 anything else said? I don't think 00:57:24.599 --> 00:57:29.945 I think I mean, from that day of Natalie being born, I think the only time 00:57:29.978 --> 00:57:32.506 that was kind of cool, cause it was just that morning that the three of us 00:57:32.539 --> 00:57:36.307 were together, was later on that night when I came back at 9 o'clock and 00:57:36.340 --> 00:57:39.945 then we were getting ready for bed, and we kind of fell asleep. I woke up 00:57:39.978 --> 00:57:43.905 later the night prior almost around 11, cause I heard Natalie in her bed, 00:57:43.938 --> 00:57:47.816 she's going. 00:57:47.849 --> 00:57:50.175 She wasn't crying, she's just making this sound, and it was just funny. I 00:57:50.208 --> 00:57:53.336 picked her up. She had this big old eyes and then she kind of woke up and 00:57:53.369 --> 00:57:55.977 then all this kind of this like went to bed, we fell asleep. It was kind 00:57:56.010 --> 00:58:00.095 of cool because it's just like. We started the day with all three of us 00:58:00.128 --> 00:58:03.336 and then we ended the day with all 3 of us sleeping together. So it was, 00:58:03.369 --> 00:58:06.577 it was one of those things I kind of kept in my own mind that was really 00:58:06.610 --> 00:58:11.956 sweet and I think that was just one thing. Blessing. 00:58:11.989 --> 00:58:19.445 It's very sweet. Also, Steven picked out her, her outfit. No, yeah, 00:58:19.478 --> 00:58:22.155 so the next day, the next day or the next day when we were leaving the 00:58:22.188 --> 00:58:26.517 hospital. We made a deal. I told him he could pick out his, um, I told my 00:58:26.550 --> 00:58:30.436 boyfriend Stephen that he could pick out the baby's outfit because I got 00:58:30.469 --> 00:58:35.316 to pick out mostly everything for the overnight bag. And he felt left out. 00:58:35.349 --> 00:58:37.727 I'm like, you could pick the outfit then because we didn't know if we're 00:58:37.760 --> 00:58:41.537 having a boy girl, so we try to get these neutral colors, and he came back 00:58:41.570 --> 00:58:45.405 with this boy hoodie and it was a dinosaur and he's like, I don't care if 00:58:45.438 --> 00:58:49.206 we're having a daughter or a boy. He's like the baby's gonna wear this, 00:58:49.239 --> 00:58:53.046 and it was like it was brown and green and it had this dinosaur spiked 00:58:53.079 --> 00:58:56.916 tail all the way down its back. And it was a hoodie and it was this cute 00:58:56.949 --> 00:59:00.126 little newborn onesie and the whole outfit and I was looking at this like 00:59:00.159 --> 00:59:04.615 , OK, so I agree to that and he we threw it in there and I I actually 00:59:04.648 --> 00:59:08.655 packed another outfit in there hoping that he'd forget about it. But when 00:59:08.688 --> 00:59:12.236 we're going in labor, he threw that outfit back in there and he remembered 00:59:12.269 --> 00:59:15.296 that deal I made him so when we brought her home, she had this pink cat 00:59:15.329 --> 00:59:23.329 and this dinosaur outfit. Yeah, it was, it was, it was. So. 00:59:24.349 --> 00:59:26.918 I love it. OK.even