I met my significant other, Jim Ebert. In 2003, it was April 2005 that I
was pregnant. Jim was turning 50. I was planning a 50th birthday party for
him is what I remember, and then finding out that I was pregnant, washed
the 50th birthday party down the drain because Eventually after I had
Georgia, we, I spent 3 days in the hospital and we came home on his 50th
birthday. My pregnancy was fabulous. I was forced to be healthier. I was
forced to not drink wine every day of my life. I still worked. I worked to
the last minute, like days before I had her. Um, I constantly got the
comment which I loved, and I don't know why women are so offended by
you're all baby, you know, how women say that and to other women who are
pregnant, and I thought it was fabulous because I was all baby, she was
big and I had gone to the doctor. Um, a few weeks before she was due and
saw the nurse practitioner. And the nurse practitioner felt the head and
said she's great, everything's great. Well, I went back a couple of weeks
later to see the doctor just a week before I was due, and she felt her
butt, not her head. So Georgia was breech. So her toes were on her face
basically and her butt was ready to deliver. So that's when I was told
that C-section and no other way to do it unless we try to turn the baby,
but. She was 9 pounds. I mean, she came out at 9 pounds 5 ounces, so there
was not a lot of um space in there to move her around. I was scheduled for
a C-section on the 18th at 10:30 in the morning, but on the 18th at about
1 o'clock in the morning, my water broke after a lovely lobster dinner, a
little wine, and a little bit of champagne. The day before I'd had my hair
done, and the women at the salon started to tell me. Their experiences
with C-section and that one of them told me that she had her arms tied
down, you know, they lay you out, your arms are out to your sides, and
they tie your arms down so you don't do anything you shouldn't be doing.
So I was a little worried about that and I did ask the guy who was
starting to strap me down if I could just have my arms free, and he said,
Yeah, just don't touch anything or put your hands anywhere. And then
received a good dose of um anesthesia and in fact, I do remember this was
quite funny the anesthesiologist, his crotch was like kind of against my
head, and he was reading a book while I was having a baby, so he didn't
seem to care so much about about me having a baby, but. Uh, so as they do
, they did whatever they did, but they were ready to yank her out and they
started to pull and they couldn't get her out and Jim tells me later that
the doctor actually had to put his leg up on the table and yank at her
because again she was butt first, so she kind of got stuck. And um I could
feel my body moving and just remember laying there with a sheet in front
of me, not being able to see anything except. Over my head and just
looking at the ceiling and looking at the lights, being tired, being
exhausted and ready for it to be done. Apparently they had given me too
much, so I slept through a lot of it but just periodically woke up and
later saw images that Jim had took all morning while I slept of he and
Georgia in the mirror and you know so and they're very, very close now. I
think it's so wonderful and I think a lot of it is that time they spent
together as soon as I came out, I didn't hold her, you know, she didn't
come to me like you see on TV, here's your baby, you know, um, he just
kind of took her and brought her to me and showed me and then. You know, I
just could not keep my eyes open to save my life. So I remember, um, the
nurse that took the stitches out asked me, do you ever grow your hair up
here? Cause then you won't even see this scar. I'm like, no, I don't, uh
uh, I never. I never grow my hair up there, but you, it's nothing. I mean
, it's very small. The scar is very small from the C-section. And never
bothered me but ended up staying in the hospital for 3 days. So I had her
Wednesday. It was Wednesday night, Thursday night, Friday night in the
hospital. When it came time to leave, I was, uh, I walked out the door and
just started bawling and bawled the whole way home, and I don't think Jim
gets it still, you know, it was just overwhelming, overwhelming to me, and
I just walked out and cried and I got home and poured myself a big glass
of wine. Uh, the woman that teaches the women how to breastfeed was quite
helpful and and said it was OK to have a glass of wine and so I thought,
OK, well that's great thanks. Just everything was different. It's like
when you go away on a vacation, you come home and it's you kind of have to
get back in the swing of things but everything was just different when I
got home nothing was the same. My biggest concern about having a baby was.
Um, the loss of time to myself. It wasn't anything else. It wasn't giving
up this or giving up that. It was the loss of privacy, even though you
would have time to yourself. You know that you know that little child is
always gonna come back. You have 15 minutes. They're at school. You're
always gonna pick them up. You're always gonna have this responsibility
for the rest of my of your life, and that was my, that was why I waited so
long. I mean, I was never ready until I, I finally was ready, I guess. And
um being around Jim, especially when we got home, I had never felt closer
to anybody in my life than I did to him, and I was madly in love with him.
And that didn't change. And the, the father that he is to her, they are
the best of friends. They do everything together and they are just two
pieces. I love them madly.