WEBVTT 00:00:00.019 --> 00:00:08.019 I met my significant other, Jim Ebert. In 2003, it was April 2005 that I 00:00:09.640 --> 00:00:14.326 was pregnant. Jim was turning 50. I was planning a 50th birthday party for 00:00:14.359 --> 00:00:18.006 him is what I remember, and then finding out that I was pregnant, washed 00:00:18.039 --> 00:00:23.686 the 50th birthday party down the drain because Eventually after I had 00:00:23.719 --> 00:00:28.166 Georgia, we, I spent 3 days in the hospital and we came home on his 50th 00:00:28.199 --> 00:00:32.406 birthday. My pregnancy was fabulous. I was forced to be healthier. I was 00:00:32.439 --> 00:00:37.847 forced to not drink wine every day of my life. I still worked. I worked to 00:00:37.880 --> 00:00:43.616 the last minute, like days before I had her. Um, I constantly got the 00:00:43.649 --> 00:00:46.856 comment which I loved, and I don't know why women are so offended by 00:00:46.889 --> 00:00:51.656 you're all baby, you know, how women say that and to other women who are 00:00:51.689 --> 00:00:54.616 pregnant, and I thought it was fabulous because I was all baby, she was 00:00:54.649 --> 00:01:00.036 big and I had gone to the doctor. Um, a few weeks before she was due and 00:01:00.069 --> 00:01:04.967 saw the nurse practitioner. And the nurse practitioner felt the head and 00:01:05.000 --> 00:01:08.245 said she's great, everything's great. Well, I went back a couple of weeks 00:01:08.278 --> 00:01:12.516 later to see the doctor just a week before I was due, and she felt her 00:01:12.549 --> 00:01:18.165 butt, not her head. So Georgia was breech. So her toes were on her face 00:01:18.198 --> 00:01:22.105 basically and her butt was ready to deliver. So that's when I was told 00:01:22.138 --> 00:01:26.367 that C-section and no other way to do it unless we try to turn the baby, 00:01:26.400 --> 00:01:30.447 but. She was 9 pounds. I mean, she came out at 9 pounds 5 ounces, so there 00:01:30.480 --> 00:01:36.007 was not a lot of um space in there to move her around. I was scheduled for 00:01:36.040 --> 00:01:41.605 a C-section on the 18th at 10:30 in the morning, but on the 18th at about 00:01:41.638 --> 00:01:45.286 1 o'clock in the morning, my water broke after a lovely lobster dinner, a 00:01:45.319 --> 00:01:48.967 little wine, and a little bit of champagne. The day before I'd had my hair 00:01:49.000 --> 00:01:55.076 done, and the women at the salon started to tell me. Their experiences 00:01:55.109 --> 00:01:59.876 with C-section and that one of them told me that she had her arms tied 00:01:59.909 --> 00:02:03.076 down, you know, they lay you out, your arms are out to your sides, and 00:02:03.109 --> 00:02:06.977 they tie your arms down so you don't do anything you shouldn't be doing. 00:02:07.010 --> 00:02:13.376 So I was a little worried about that and I did ask the guy who was 00:02:13.409 --> 00:02:16.275 starting to strap me down if I could just have my arms free, and he said, 00:02:16.308 --> 00:02:21.767 Yeah, just don't touch anything or put your hands anywhere. And then 00:02:21.800 --> 00:02:29.800 received a good dose of um anesthesia and in fact, I do remember this was 00:02:29.960 --> 00:02:34.927 quite funny the anesthesiologist, his crotch was like kind of against my 00:02:34.960 --> 00:02:40.805 head, and he was reading a book while I was having a baby, so he didn't 00:02:40.838 --> 00:02:47.286 seem to care so much about about me having a baby, but. Uh, so as they do 00:02:47.319 --> 00:02:50.886 , they did whatever they did, but they were ready to yank her out and they 00:02:50.919 --> 00:02:54.656 started to pull and they couldn't get her out and Jim tells me later that 00:02:54.689 --> 00:02:59.927 the doctor actually had to put his leg up on the table and yank at her 00:02:59.960 --> 00:03:05.146 because again she was butt first, so she kind of got stuck. And um I could 00:03:05.179 --> 00:03:08.505 feel my body moving and just remember laying there with a sheet in front 00:03:08.538 --> 00:03:13.217 of me, not being able to see anything except. Over my head and just 00:03:13.250 --> 00:03:16.386 looking at the ceiling and looking at the lights, being tired, being 00:03:16.419 --> 00:03:23.555 exhausted and ready for it to be done. Apparently they had given me too 00:03:23.588 --> 00:03:27.927 much, so I slept through a lot of it but just periodically woke up and 00:03:27.960 --> 00:03:31.446 later saw images that Jim had took all morning while I slept of he and 00:03:31.479 --> 00:03:34.525 Georgia in the mirror and you know so and they're very, very close now. I 00:03:34.558 --> 00:03:37.566 think it's so wonderful and I think a lot of it is that time they spent 00:03:37.599 --> 00:03:40.725 together as soon as I came out, I didn't hold her, you know, she didn't 00:03:40.758 --> 00:03:44.927 come to me like you see on TV, here's your baby, you know, um, he just 00:03:44.960 --> 00:03:48.717 kind of took her and brought her to me and showed me and then. You know, I 00:03:48.750 --> 00:03:54.166 just could not keep my eyes open to save my life. So I remember, um, the 00:03:54.199 --> 00:03:58.517 nurse that took the stitches out asked me, do you ever grow your hair up 00:03:58.550 --> 00:04:03.737 here? Cause then you won't even see this scar. I'm like, no, I don't, uh 00:04:03.770 --> 00:04:09.396 uh, I never. I never grow my hair up there, but you, it's nothing. I mean 00:04:09.429 --> 00:04:16.546 , it's very small. The scar is very small from the C-section. And never 00:04:16.579 --> 00:04:21.145 bothered me but ended up staying in the hospital for 3 days. So I had her 00:04:21.178 --> 00:04:23.467 Wednesday. It was Wednesday night, Thursday night, Friday night in the 00:04:23.500 --> 00:04:30.026 hospital. When it came time to leave, I was, uh, I walked out the door and 00:04:30.059 --> 00:04:33.226 just started bawling and bawled the whole way home, and I don't think Jim 00:04:33.259 --> 00:04:38.546 gets it still, you know, it was just overwhelming, overwhelming to me, and 00:04:38.579 --> 00:04:41.406 I just walked out and cried and I got home and poured myself a big glass 00:04:41.439 --> 00:04:45.187 of wine. Uh, the woman that teaches the women how to breastfeed was quite 00:04:45.220 --> 00:04:49.317 helpful and and said it was OK to have a glass of wine and so I thought, 00:04:49.350 --> 00:04:52.796 OK, well that's great thanks. Just everything was different. It's like 00:04:52.829 --> 00:04:55.757 when you go away on a vacation, you come home and it's you kind of have to 00:04:55.790 --> 00:04:59.796 get back in the swing of things but everything was just different when I 00:04:59.829 --> 00:05:05.166 got home nothing was the same. My biggest concern about having a baby was. 00:05:05.199 --> 00:05:09.676 Um, the loss of time to myself. It wasn't anything else. It wasn't giving 00:05:09.709 --> 00:05:14.127 up this or giving up that. It was the loss of privacy, even though you 00:05:14.160 --> 00:05:19.476 would have time to yourself. You know that you know that little child is 00:05:19.509 --> 00:05:22.236 always gonna come back. You have 15 minutes. They're at school. You're 00:05:22.269 --> 00:05:25.515 always gonna pick them up. You're always gonna have this responsibility 00:05:25.548 --> 00:05:29.637 for the rest of my of your life, and that was my, that was why I waited so 00:05:29.670 --> 00:05:34.955 long. I mean, I was never ready until I, I finally was ready, I guess. And 00:05:34.988 --> 00:05:39.947 um being around Jim, especially when we got home, I had never felt closer 00:05:39.980 --> 00:05:44.645 to anybody in my life than I did to him, and I was madly in love with him. 00:05:44.678 --> 00:05:49.096 And that didn't change. And the, the father that he is to her, they are 00:05:49.129 --> 00:05:53.226 the best of friends. They do everything together and they are just two 00:05:53.259 --> 00:05:56.778 pieces. I love them madly.