WEBVTT 00:00:00.740 --> 00:00:07.016 This is Boris Solis interviewing Shannon Campbell on May 27, 2016 at 3:30 00:00:07.049 --> 00:00:11.097 for the Creative Push project. OK, so you have two children also. I have 00:00:11.130 --> 00:00:14.615 11, I mean, you can say two if you want to count my husband, but just one 00:00:14.648 --> 00:00:21.416 that I've given birth to. Sorry, something to laugh during that. OK. 00:00:21.449 --> 00:00:24.416 OK, so take us back to the conception. Maybe you build, you know, if you 00:00:24.449 --> 00:00:29.855 want to talk a little bit. So, so my husband and I have been together 00:00:29.888 --> 00:00:34.015 since 17 and 18. So right after we graduated from high school, we decided 00:00:34.048 --> 00:00:39.015 we liked each other, so we started dating. Um, we got married and 00:00:39.048 --> 00:00:44.015 we graduated from high school in 2004, we got married in 2010. 00:00:44.048 --> 00:00:49.417 Um, went to college, did everything in the so, so great way of doing 00:00:49.450 --> 00:00:54.576 things, I guess. It didn't really matter after the fact. Um, we started 00:00:54.609 --> 00:00:58.737 talking about having a baby from the time we were teenagers. Um, we didn't 00:00:58.770 --> 00:01:01.777 want him right away. We had both raised our nieces and nephews, and we 00:01:01.810 --> 00:01:05.495 were perfectly happy being the awesome aunt and uncle. Like we took our 00:01:05.528 --> 00:01:10.117 kids, the kids everywhere, and then we got to give them back. It was great. 00:01:10.150 --> 00:01:15.786 Um, then he started pushing me and there was other external circumstances. 00:01:15.819 --> 00:01:20.867 One of my um. Friends, all my friends were older moms, and they were 00:01:20.900 --> 00:01:24.665 having issues with their pregnancies, getting pregnant, having issues with 00:01:24.698 --> 00:01:29.135 birth defects, um, stuff like that. So I was like, I need to get pregnant 00:01:29.168 --> 00:01:31.977 . I probably should. I don't want it to be my fault if something's wrong 00:01:32.010 --> 00:01:35.495 with my child. My husband and I started talking about it, and then I 00:01:35.528 --> 00:01:39.647 realized I really liked my life, and we were having some serious 00:01:39.680 --> 00:01:43.176 conversations about getting pregnant and why I didn't want to. And I think 00:01:43.209 --> 00:01:47.337 it just became, I needed him to reassure me he was ready to, when we're 00:01:47.370 --> 00:01:51.775 going to do this together, because otherwise I was completely happy and 00:01:51.808 --> 00:01:54.135 was making money. We were having fun, we were going to Vegas, we were 00:01:54.168 --> 00:02:00.706 having trips. It was a great life. So, let's start to get pregnant. Sounds 00:02:00.739 --> 00:02:08.116 so easy. I had been on birth control for more than 8 years. 00:02:08.149 --> 00:02:12.606 So go off birth control. Yay, it's gonna be great. We're fine. A year 00:02:12.639 --> 00:02:17.495 later, nothing's happening, and I'm starting to get worried and I'm 00:02:17.528 --> 00:02:22.927 totally blaming myself and my body and We make an appointment to go down 00:02:22.960 --> 00:02:25.886 to Phoenix because up here in Flagstaff, we have no specialists that deal 00:02:25.919 --> 00:02:30.656 with these issues. Then I realize. 00:02:30.689 --> 00:02:34.827 And then I got to change jobs. After I changed jobs, I realized how much 00:02:34.860 --> 00:02:40.025 stress I was under. I was being, I hate this word. I was being bullied. I 00:02:40.058 --> 00:02:44.585 hate I hate using it. It's so the word of the day right now, but I really 00:02:44.618 --> 00:02:48.066 , somebody was getting in my face and I didn't realize how stressed I was 00:02:48.099 --> 00:02:50.225 . I was looking at my schedule, seeing if I was going to work with this 00:02:50.258 --> 00:02:54.827 person, and I found out I was going to get a new job and I was happy and I 00:02:54.860 --> 00:03:01.585 , I mean, throughout this time I was doing. The ovulation test and I had 00:03:01.618 --> 00:03:05.987 so many, I had taken so many um tests to see if I was pregnant that I 00:03:06.020 --> 00:03:10.066 finally ordered some from China because they were cheaper off of eBay. 00:03:10.099 --> 00:03:13.835 They're probably about 2 cents a piece. I got ordered like 100. Taking 00:03:13.868 --> 00:03:17.626 many birth control birth. 00:03:17.659 --> 00:03:21.505 conception test, see if I was pregnant, positive not, so we had to go 00:03:21.538 --> 00:03:25.245 cheaper because I was spending way too much money on all of this stuff. 00:03:25.278 --> 00:03:32.177 And I switched jobs and I was finally relaxed. And I was, no, and my job 00:03:32.210 --> 00:03:35.656 is I'm a nurse. Uh, I was a nurse, met search floor and running around, 00:03:35.689 --> 00:03:39.896 running around, running around. And when I, when I switched jobs, I just 00:03:39.929 --> 00:03:43.416 was like, what I've later found out was my first pregnancy symptom. I 00:03:43.449 --> 00:03:46.335 didn't know I was pregnant yet. I was peeing a lot and I just assumed it 00:03:46.368 --> 00:03:49.255 was because I had time to pee. I was super excited. I was like, Oh, you 00:03:49.288 --> 00:03:52.096 guys get to pee. That's awesome. I don't have to give somebody drugs right 00:03:52.129 --> 00:03:54.297 now. 00:03:54.330 --> 00:03:57.085 Um, 00:03:57.118 --> 00:04:01.656 But it was fun. It, it took a while to find out I was cause I still didn't 00:04:01.689 --> 00:04:06.255 think because after a while taking so many tests, you just don't think 00:04:06.288 --> 00:04:11.126 it's gonna happen. I mean. I, while I was peeing, we, I was ready to go 00:04:11.159 --> 00:04:15.585 down to Phoenix probably. In about a week we had the appointment scheduled 00:04:15.618 --> 00:04:19.467 for the next week when I found out I was pregnant. Uh, I had a scheduled 00:04:19.500 --> 00:04:26.387 with a specialist, um, to a fertility specialist. Um, we were going to go 00:04:26.420 --> 00:04:31.955 down. And Troy was gonna get his sperm count tested, and I was going to go 00:04:31.988 --> 00:04:36.096 see what was going on with my eggs, and if it was me. Uh, they recommended 00:04:36.129 --> 00:04:42.226 that we wait at least a year of trying, uh, and a. How do you say it, um, 00:04:42.259 --> 00:04:46.656 without intervention and about a year, especially at our age we were. 00:04:46.689 --> 00:04:50.257 Mid-20s when we were frying mid-20s. So they were like, you're healthy, 00:04:50.290 --> 00:04:53.697 you should be fine. So wait a year until you come down and by this point, 00:04:53.730 --> 00:04:57.257 I'm like beating myself up and saying I'm a horrible person and what's 00:04:57.290 --> 00:05:00.887 wrong with my body and This is supposed to work. I did everything in the 00:05:00.920 --> 00:05:06.325 right steps. We dated, we got married. We waited a while, we made money. 00:05:06.358 --> 00:05:09.967 This was the next step, but didn't happen. 00:05:10.000 --> 00:05:15.356 So when you finally got that test. I thought it was lying because it was a 00:05:15.389 --> 00:05:20.096 cheap 2 cent test. It was the two lines, but it was a little itty bitty 00:05:20.129 --> 00:05:23.937 stick. So I mean, I, I had the expensive one waiting, so I got the 00:05:23.970 --> 00:05:27.096 expensive one out that was the digital readout and said pregnant. And I'm 00:05:27.129 --> 00:05:32.217 like, Oh, awesome. It's a nighttime person still at this time, so it's 00:05:32.250 --> 00:05:35.575 probably like 3 in the morning. 00:05:35.608 --> 00:05:38.257 My husband and I had just gotten stopped having a conversation about like 00:05:38.290 --> 00:05:41.055 what we're going to do, how we're going to do it. And I was like so 00:05:41.088 --> 00:05:45.736 excited. I was like I went on Amazon and bought something. My husband's a 00:05:45.769 --> 00:05:52.217 cowboy fan. I don't hold that against him, but I Went and got little 00:05:52.250 --> 00:05:55.096 cowboy baby booties and I was gonna like make this big presentation when 00:05:55.129 --> 00:05:57.895 it came in 2 days because he'd been waiting right along with me. He's not 00:05:57.928 --> 00:06:02.346 even counting anymore. He's trying to hold it up and be supportive for me 00:06:02.379 --> 00:06:06.486 because he knows I'm beating myself up. 00:06:06.519 --> 00:06:12.197 And 15 minutes later, I go into the bedroom and go, look. Oh well, I just 00:06:12.230 --> 00:06:15.197 spent $20 on stuff that you're not going to get. And he's like, What is it 00:06:15.230 --> 00:06:20.596 ? He's trying to wake up. We're pregnant. He's like, and he starts crying 00:06:20.629 --> 00:06:25.236 and I'm like, Why are you the girl? And I'm like, Gender stereotype, Stop 00:06:25.269 --> 00:06:27.476 it. 00:06:27.509 --> 00:06:30.877 His field is very politically corrected, but it's always been our 00:06:30.910 --> 00:06:33.676 relationship. He's always the emotional one. I'm always like, Look, this 00:06:33.709 --> 00:06:38.106 is so exciting. He's like, Why aren't you happier? And I'm like, I am. Ah 00:06:38.139 --> 00:06:44.856 , what are we going to do now? I don't know. Um, and then we get to 00:06:44.889 --> 00:06:47.137 totally 00:06:47.170 --> 00:06:51.536 not tell anybody. I was like, we're going to protect this. This is new. 00:06:51.569 --> 00:06:54.817 Something, something has to happen. I mean, it's taken this long, 00:06:54.850 --> 00:06:59.726 nothing's going right with the pregnancy. So let's, let's Take it back. Um 00:06:59.759 --> 00:07:03.377 , went to the doctor's office, took urine samples. She told me to go to my 00:07:03.410 --> 00:07:08.616 OB. They took the blood test and all of that. They're like, Oh, you're 00:07:08.649 --> 00:07:12.536 really pregnant, because it took less than 2 seconds for the two strips to 00:07:12.569 --> 00:07:17.546 come up for everybody. I'm like, that's a good, good sign, right? OK. Uh, 00:07:17.579 --> 00:07:20.197 and then I got to wait for the ultrasound and actually hear the heartbeat 00:07:20.230 --> 00:07:24.116 and they're like, everything looks great. Like, yay. That's when I 00:07:24.149 --> 00:07:27.836 actually realized and I calmed down a bit and I was like, let's enjoy this 00:07:27.869 --> 00:07:30.495 a little bit. 00:07:30.528 --> 00:07:36.606 So how was pregnancy? Was it like? Pregnancy, I hate telling everybody 00:07:36.639 --> 00:07:39.736 because pregnancy was fine. 00:07:39.769 --> 00:07:43.137 The biggest thing was I was always hungry and I still haven't lost the 00:07:43.170 --> 00:07:46.257 weight two years later, but that's fine. I literally would yell at my 00:07:46.290 --> 00:07:49.697 husband if he didn't have food in his hand on the way in the door. We had 00:07:49.730 --> 00:07:53.526 some big fights over food. 00:07:53.559 --> 00:07:58.217 You're you're not presenting me with something, a big buffet to eat. I, 00:07:58.250 --> 00:08:04.697 that's the biggest thing after the the urine spectacular, peeing every 00:08:04.730 --> 00:08:07.895 hour went away from the first trimester. First trimester was fabulous, 00:08:07.928 --> 00:08:12.217 though, like no nausea, no vomiting, nothing. I'm like, if I didn't know 00:08:12.250 --> 00:08:15.697 better, I wouldn't if I would have still had a period or spotting, I 00:08:15.730 --> 00:08:18.325 probably would have been one of those women on, didn't know I was pregnant 00:08:18.358 --> 00:08:23.236 because there's nothing. But 2nd trimester hit and I just wanted every 00:08:23.269 --> 00:08:27.197 single type of food there was. We had to keep food out of our apartment 00:08:27.230 --> 00:08:32.717 because I was just a trash compactor. Anything that could go in my mouth 00:08:32.750 --> 00:08:40.566 did. Third trimester came. Heartburn hit like nothing else. I thought I 00:08:40.599 --> 00:08:48.547 had had heartburn before. Uh, I eventually ended up having to sit in and 00:08:48.580 --> 00:08:52.856 sleep in my recliner. I had to be propped up and hold on, let's wait until 00:08:52.889 --> 00:08:55.907 the garbage is taken off. Yeah, I was wondering what that was. No, you're 00:08:55.940 --> 00:08:59.596 fine. 00:08:59.629 --> 00:09:04.586 that stops. He's like. 00:09:04.619 --> 00:09:11.606 So Sitting in my recliner, sleeping. And the reason we had to do that was 00:09:11.639 --> 00:09:16.717 I actually was starting to aspirate acid from my stomach. I would wake up 00:09:16.750 --> 00:09:23.366 and I, it was an alarm, almost. I couldn't breathe. I was burning. Nothing 00:09:23.399 --> 00:09:28.005 would make the burning go away, coughing, just excess amount of like mucus 00:09:28.038 --> 00:09:31.616 coming out of my nose, my eyes, my ears. And the only thing that made it 00:09:31.649 --> 00:09:35.856 feel better was I would have to like eat like 10 times to just get the 00:09:35.889 --> 00:09:38.895 burning out of my throat because my lungs wouldn't stop burning because I 00:09:38.928 --> 00:09:46.928 had aspirated it. I inhaled stomach acid. I'm sorry. No, 00:09:50.259 --> 00:09:50.936 there's no way to edit out. No, you're fine. Yeah, maybe I should just 00:09:50.969 --> 00:09:54.135 glance outside the door and see you. 00:09:54.168 --> 00:09:56.736 No, you're fine. Just let me know where I need to start again. There's no 00:09:56.769 --> 00:09:59.417 one here. 00:09:59.450 --> 00:10:04.236 Yeah, I know that the door rings. When you enter the other one because 00:10:04.269 --> 00:10:09.356 they had an issue where somebody was trying to hurt our boss and there's 00:10:09.389 --> 00:10:13.037 no way to let you know if somebody's coming in, and she had she had a 00:10:13.070 --> 00:10:16.635 threatening letter. So they had to they had to put a doorbell in because 00:10:16.668 --> 00:10:19.596 there's no receptionist at the front of that office. So that's why that 00:10:19.629 --> 00:10:23.836 doorbell goes off. It's a good reason. OK. 00:10:23.869 --> 00:10:30.037 I was aspirating. Oh, OK, yeah. So, sleeping in my reclining chair, 00:10:30.070 --> 00:10:34.385 because I had started to aspirate. I probably before I probably aspirated 00:10:34.418 --> 00:10:38.956 twice before I decided, yeah, sorry, Troy, I can't sleep in the bed. I 00:10:38.989 --> 00:10:43.236 have to go sleep out there. I am sleeping in the recliner. Can you tell us 00:10:43.269 --> 00:10:47.755 what aspirate means? Yeah, aspirating is inhaling stomach. I was inhaling 00:10:47.788 --> 00:10:54.395 stomach acid into my lungs. My lungs, and I could feel it go down my I can 00:10:54.428 --> 00:10:59.635 almost feel as it I inhaled it, go down the big tube out to the little 00:10:59.668 --> 00:11:06.316 tubes where your oxygen is absorbed. Like it literally burnt my entire 00:11:06.349 --> 00:11:12.856 chest. And the only relief I had was time. The only thing I could do 00:11:12.889 --> 00:11:16.746 anything about it was take a Tums to get the acid out of my throat, at 00:11:16.779 --> 00:11:21.625 least so I could stop. But it would probably, it led to about 15 to 20 00:11:21.658 --> 00:11:26.395 minutes of coughing. It scared the living lights out of my husband the 00:11:26.428 --> 00:11:30.956 first time it happened, and because you can't do anything, you just have 00:11:30.989 --> 00:11:37.356 to work through it. It's not fun. Um, the reason it happened was my 00:11:37.389 --> 00:11:43.125 daughter was in a Buddha position sitting straight forward. Her head. 00:11:43.158 --> 00:11:48.907 Would nuzzle my stomach. I remember being in the in the bathtub and see 00:11:48.940 --> 00:11:53.677 and I could feel her head right under my rib cage and it, there was just 00:11:53.710 --> 00:11:58.407 no room for anything other than nothing in my in my stomach. She 00:11:58.440 --> 00:12:02.927 completely compressed it. So if I was anything other than upright, acid 00:12:02.960 --> 00:12:05.417 was coming up. 00:12:05.450 --> 00:12:12.177 I couldn't take enough Tums. I hate the taste of the regular taste of Tums 00:12:12.210 --> 00:12:15.696 to this point. They're chuck. Don't let me near them. Thank goodness for 00:12:15.729 --> 00:12:22.446 fruit flavored tubs. I at some point knew at work, I knew where everybody 00:12:22.479 --> 00:12:25.206 had some Tums. 00:12:25.239 --> 00:12:29.686 However, if I was awake, I wasn't going to inhale. I mean, gravity was the 00:12:29.719 --> 00:12:34.246 best thing for me. I had to just stay upright. I think through the course 00:12:34.279 --> 00:12:39.086 of my pregnancy, I probably inhaled the acid every time I lay down, and I 00:12:39.119 --> 00:12:43.246 kept trying. I wanted to lay on my bellows so bad, probably 6 times. I did 00:12:43.279 --> 00:12:47.047 that. Are there any like permanent damage? Um, I don't think there's 00:12:47.080 --> 00:12:50.486 permanent damage. However, I know with people that have this as a chronic 00:12:50.519 --> 00:12:54.346 condition. It definitely one of the side effects is cancer if you keep 00:12:54.379 --> 00:12:59.505 doing it because it changes the molecular structure of your cells. Once 00:12:59.538 --> 00:13:02.946 they're destroyed, they grow back scar tissue wise, and it's just not a 00:13:02.979 --> 00:13:06.265 good thing. So I'll keep an eye on it, but I don't think because it was 00:13:06.298 --> 00:13:09.625 such a limited amount of time, I think I'm OK, but we'll never know. You 00:13:09.658 --> 00:13:16.015 never know. Um, how was the 00:13:16.048 --> 00:13:18.385 like the weight gain and the weight gain was fine. I love to eat, but I 00:13:18.418 --> 00:13:20.746 mean. 00:13:20.779 --> 00:13:24.145 All the bread and cheese and everything. Every time I ate, the acid went 00:13:24.178 --> 00:13:29.736 away. Uh, the worst thing for the acid was water. Water made that acid 00:13:29.769 --> 00:13:31.895 horrible. 00:13:31.928 --> 00:13:37.125 I I loved water. I drank and I was started to get addicted to Dr. Pepper. 00:13:37.158 --> 00:13:44.326 I hadn't had caffeine since junior high, and this baby wanted Dr. Pepper. 00:13:44.359 --> 00:13:49.366 I, it took me up until a year ago to kick the habit of Dr. Pepper too. I 00:13:49.399 --> 00:13:52.807 became addicted to the caffeine and the sugar, and it probably led to the 00:13:52.840 --> 00:13:56.967 weight gain more than the food did. Uh, I didn't really eat that much food 00:13:57.000 --> 00:13:59.645 because of the acid. However, the food helped the acid, the acid was 00:13:59.678 --> 00:14:02.606 caused by the food, so there you go. I got really good at what caused it. 00:14:02.639 --> 00:14:10.456 It was water, which is really weird. Uh, I couldn't eat for But I had to 00:14:10.489 --> 00:14:13.226 plan when I was going to sleep, which is really hard because I work nights. 00:14:13.259 --> 00:14:16.625 So my schedule was all over the place and I was walking around the 00:14:16.658 --> 00:14:20.625 hospital and teaching the new grads and was trying to eat whenever I could 00:14:20.658 --> 00:14:26.076 , but I would get home and if I chose to eat before I slept, I would have 00:14:26.109 --> 00:14:31.596 to stay up for at least 3 more hours, and it kind of stunk. 00:14:31.629 --> 00:14:36.066 I mean, I still had my recliner, but I would just have to sit there and 00:14:36.099 --> 00:14:39.427 make sure if I didn't, I couldn't go to sleep yet. I had to make sure I 00:14:39.460 --> 00:14:42.797 kept myself awake for a certain amount of time, or else I would get myself 00:14:42.830 --> 00:14:47.856 into trouble, which was scary. Not being able to breathe is absolutely the 00:14:47.889 --> 00:14:51.866 scariest thing I've ever done in my life. Like that feeling, I wouldn't 00:14:51.899 --> 00:14:58.525 wish on anybody. Did you have a support network? My family, the closest 00:14:58.558 --> 00:15:04.407 family I have here besides my husband, is in Parker, which is about 3 00:15:04.440 --> 00:15:10.206 hours away. My mother lives 7 hours away, my mother-in-law is about 14+. 00:15:10.239 --> 00:15:15.486 She lives 2 hours north of San Francisco. So, no, no family. However, I 00:15:15.519 --> 00:15:19.326 gained a support network as I went. We went to all of those lovely 00:15:19.359 --> 00:15:22.807 birthing classes. We went to every single one. Troy went to the daddy only 00:15:22.840 --> 00:15:27.145 one, and We have a whole bunch of friends from this experience that were 00:15:27.178 --> 00:15:31.015 pregnant at the same time. I remember I was going around doing my 00:15:31.048 --> 00:15:35.787 education job and I was like, Forgive me, I'm burping, I'm pregnant, sorry. 00:15:35.820 --> 00:15:40.505 And some awesome lady was like, I'm pregnant too, and she was too, uh, 00:15:40.538 --> 00:15:43.066 not not, she wasn't at her 12 weeks, so she didn't want to tell anybody, 00:15:43.099 --> 00:15:45.787 but she wanted to tell somebody and because I was pregnant, she felt 00:15:45.820 --> 00:15:49.586 comfortable enough to tell me and I just went to her son's 2 year old 00:15:49.619 --> 00:15:54.917 birthday two weekends ago. And she's probably one of my best friends in 00:15:54.950 --> 00:16:00.586 Flagstaff where we live right now. To this day. So we've been able to tell 00:16:00.619 --> 00:16:04.145 our stories and we've had very similar stories. We've had some 00:16:04.178 --> 00:16:08.875 difficulties after the pregnancy that I don't think many people got to 00:16:08.908 --> 00:16:16.908 have had that experience. But it's been great. So let's, why don't we um 00:16:17.869 --> 00:16:23.135 Move closer to the birth part. Do you have a birth plan? So no birth plan. 00:16:23.168 --> 00:16:28.255 My daughter, like I was saying, sat like a Buddha straight up and down 00:16:28.288 --> 00:16:33.856 and facing out the entire pregnancy since we knew what her position was. 00:16:33.889 --> 00:16:38.657 Head at the stomach, feet at my bladder. I experienced the joys of having 00:16:38.690 --> 00:16:42.746 to wear a pad because she would river dance every so often on my bladder, 00:16:42.779 --> 00:16:48.736 and it would just go. And then the joys of familial resemblance is how my 00:16:48.769 --> 00:16:52.976 pediatrician calls it. She has a very large head on top of the fact where 00:16:53.009 --> 00:16:58.496 it was. I think at our 36, 35 week ultrasound, she was measuring greater 00:16:58.529 --> 00:17:03.125 than 40 weeks. That combined with her position, I was basically told at 00:17:03.158 --> 00:17:06.285 that time, I, I don't really want to move her if she was gonna move and 00:17:06.318 --> 00:17:09.805 going to flip over, she already would have totally OK with it. I did not 00:17:09.838 --> 00:17:14.256 want to have her manually flipped around just to have her flipped back, 00:17:14.289 --> 00:17:17.607 cause I've seen the bruises on other women. They do it in the OR. It's 00:17:17.640 --> 00:17:22.966 grotesque. I was like, Her head's that big anyways. You're just gonna have 00:17:22.999 --> 00:17:27.405 an you're just gonna have a C-section. OK. 00:17:27.438 --> 00:17:30.165 Like that's a really big needle that they had to stick in my back, huh? 00:17:30.198 --> 00:17:33.706 Yeah. Well, I would have had it either way if I would have gone through 00:17:33.739 --> 00:17:40.986 labor. Oh, OK. Uh, it took me about a week to grasp, but my sister-in-law 00:17:41.019 --> 00:17:44.026 is a labor and delivery nurse, and she's like, please don't create one, so 00:17:44.059 --> 00:17:48.867 I never did. I'm completely comfortable going with the flow. However, I'm 00:17:48.900 --> 00:17:53.186 gonna get this baby out the healthiest is what we're gonna do. I have no 00:17:53.219 --> 00:17:56.476 problem with it, never did. 00:17:56.509 --> 00:18:01.426 Then came the really scary part. I had to choose my daughter's birthday. I 00:18:01.459 --> 00:18:06.516 , my husband and I were terrified of that. How I get to choose somebody's 00:18:06.549 --> 00:18:12.006 birthday. I had to choose her name. Now I have to choose a birthday. 00:18:12.039 --> 00:18:14.847 It's so bad that my doctor's staring at us. She's like, you want to give 00:18:14.880 --> 00:18:18.696 us a phone call later? We're like, yeah, and she gave us our schedule of 00:18:18.729 --> 00:18:26.035 when we could have a baby. Who gets a schedule of when you can have OK. 00:18:26.068 --> 00:18:30.897 So we decided her, she wanted to make it a week before her due date. Her 00:18:30.930 --> 00:18:38.930 due date was May 15th. We chose May 5th. Because 5 or. May 9th is what 00:18:40.459 --> 00:18:45.226 actually what we chose. May 9th because 5 + 9 was 14, which would have 00:18:45.259 --> 00:18:52.656 been 2014. So 1414. And our wedding anniversary is 7310. So we're like, OK 00:18:52.689 --> 00:18:56.967 , we got a reason. Yay, there's, I mean, we have a whole story behind your 00:18:57.000 --> 00:19:00.666 name. We should have a story behind her birthday if we have to choose it. 00:19:00.699 --> 00:19:03.107 Sounded great. 00:19:03.140 --> 00:19:06.035 Best laid plants 00:19:06.068 --> 00:19:10.476 So we get closer, closer, closer. It's due date. Um, his boss, my 00:19:10.509 --> 00:19:14.055 husband's boss is totally on me and going, You have to wait till that day. 00:19:14.088 --> 00:19:18.946 My husband's a hall director at NAU. We live on campus. I need, he needed 00:19:18.979 --> 00:19:22.597 Troy to work because it's closing of campus. It's the busiest week of the 00:19:22.630 --> 00:19:26.156 year. 00:19:26.189 --> 00:19:30.117 So now I have this pressure. Now, now we have to wait till that day. How 00:19:30.150 --> 00:19:36.246 do you wait for a baby? So morning of May 4th. May the 4th be with you, 00:19:36.279 --> 00:19:39.847 which is the funniest thing about it because my husband has no clue about 00:19:39.880 --> 00:19:43.446 Star Wars at all. So of course we're gonna have a baby on May the 4th be 00:19:43.479 --> 00:19:47.776 with you, Star Wars Day. He doesn't even know who Princess Leia is, which 00:19:47.809 --> 00:19:53.075 I find it absolutely hilarious. I wake up, go to the bathroom, just pee, 00:19:53.108 --> 00:19:59.476 it's fine. Go pee all the time this time. No room for her bladder. And as 00:19:59.509 --> 00:20:02.835 I'm standing up from peeing, all of a sudden there's a gush, and I was 00:20:02.868 --> 00:20:06.736 like, I thought I was done peeing. 00:20:06.769 --> 00:20:12.377 And then it dawned on me. Oh, your water broke. Oh, that was a really nice 00:20:12.410 --> 00:20:17.295 location for your water break. It's gonna break. Toilet? Awesome. 00:20:17.328 --> 00:20:20.696 to wake up Troy No. Don't wake up the husband. Don't wake up the husband 00:20:20.729 --> 00:20:26.085 yet. Let's call to see if you should go in. I'm a nurse. I was told if 00:20:26.118 --> 00:20:30.006 your water breaks just go in, but hey, why not give out labor and delivery 00:20:30.039 --> 00:20:32.897 a call. So I did. 00:20:32.930 --> 00:20:36.147 And my OB happen to be already doing a C-section at that moment. She's 00:20:36.180 --> 00:20:40.956 like, yeah, come in, it'll be great timing. I can do two in a row. So I 00:20:40.989 --> 00:20:46.956 wake wake Troy up. We got to go. He's like, Huh? And then he starts 00:20:46.989 --> 00:20:50.506 repacking our suitcase. It's already packed. He puts it into a bigger 00:20:50.539 --> 00:20:53.597 suitcase. I'm like, What are you doing? And why are you packing 5 pairs of 00:20:53.630 --> 00:20:57.426 shorts? You can go home. I can't. Why is there more stuff? He's like, I 00:20:57.459 --> 00:21:02.406 don't know what I'm doing. I'm like, Let's just go. Please, let's go. And 00:21:02.439 --> 00:21:07.006 then I went, wait, my mom can't be here. She's coming on Friday. It's not 00:21:07.039 --> 00:21:12.325 Friday. She can't come. It's just gonna be him and I doing this. I'm not 00:21:12.358 --> 00:21:16.847 going to have anybody. And then I was like, I have him. At least I have 00:21:16.880 --> 00:21:20.285 him. We'll be OK. It'll be great, actually, because we'll get to spend 00:21:20.318 --> 00:21:23.607 some time with this brand new creature alone without having the pressures 00:21:23.640 --> 00:21:31.640 of our moms. And I realized what a Gift that was later. I go in, do all 00:21:31.969 --> 00:21:35.946 the paperwork was done, thank goodness. Do an ultrasound, make sure she's 00:21:35.979 --> 00:21:40.666 still breech, still breach. There's no moving her. I remember the lady 00:21:40.699 --> 00:21:45.877 coming in, one of the nurses coming in with a, I forget what it's called. 00:21:45.910 --> 00:21:49.147 It's the little plastic thing that they're going to put on her microscope 00:21:49.180 --> 00:21:53.065 to make sure my water broke. I'm like, You're funny. I can tell. And they 00:21:53.098 --> 00:21:57.026 they lift up the blanket and like, Oh no, that's a gross rupture of 00:21:57.059 --> 00:22:01.857 membranes. We don't need this test done like I told you. OK, and then that 00:22:01.890 --> 00:22:04.656 nurse left because of course I, I have to be the typical nurse that comes 00:22:04.689 --> 00:22:08.357 in and changes shift. So I get introduced to a whole brand new nurse and 00:22:08.390 --> 00:22:11.276 she looks at me. We need to start an IV and start having a conversation. 00:22:11.309 --> 00:22:14.476 Oh, you're a nurse. We're going to have the special person come in because 00:22:14.509 --> 00:22:20.526 I can't hit a vein on a nurse. Like, you can try once. I don't care. It's 00:22:20.559 --> 00:22:23.127 really we have really big veins when we're pregnant. Remember that from 00:22:23.160 --> 00:22:28.006 nursing school. I'm not an LND nurse. Don't ask me ever to deliver a baby. 00:22:28.039 --> 00:22:30.967 But that's the one thing I do remember about having babies from nursing 00:22:31.000 --> 00:22:38.107 school. We've got big veins. Tryon, a pregnant lady. OK. So the other ID 00:22:38.140 --> 00:22:41.387 specialist comes in and he is super annoyed that he has to come in cause 00:22:41.420 --> 00:22:45.305 he sees these big juicy veins on me and he's, he knows I worked there, so 00:22:45.338 --> 00:22:49.756 he starts complaining to me. I'm like, not the right time, buddy. Just get 00:22:49.789 --> 00:22:54.276 it in. I'm having this happy moment and to have somebody come in that's so 00:22:54.309 --> 00:23:00.607 negative, I couldn't believe it. And and I know him and. And that's all I 00:23:00.640 --> 00:23:03.276 had to say about that cause he was in and out and it was fine. It was all 00:23:03.309 --> 00:23:08.176 better. Then my day nurse comes in and says, hi, we're gonna go right now. 00:23:08.209 --> 00:23:12.617 Right now, right now, I I I don't have more time. I don't want to go have 00:23:12.650 --> 00:23:18.897 my baby. OK, let's go. And then came. You're going to go walk. You forget 00:23:18.930 --> 00:23:21.857 . I had a gross rupture of membranes. You want me to walk down this 00:23:21.890 --> 00:23:25.137 hallway dripping on the floor? I told this to my nurse and she's like, Oh 00:23:25.170 --> 00:23:28.295 , we're used to it. I'm like, I'm not used to dripping on a floor of my 00:23:28.328 --> 00:23:34.246 bodily fluids. She's like, you want to wear a pad? I'm like, yes, please. 00:23:34.279 --> 00:23:39.156 And my husband and I are walking, and he had to stay there. 00:23:39.189 --> 00:23:42.585 And I wasn't ready to let him go, and I couldn't believe they were making 00:23:42.618 --> 00:23:47.986 me do this by myself. I'm walking barefoot into this cold OR, I have to 00:23:48.019 --> 00:23:53.986 sit down, and then the anesthesiologist, she introduces herself to me, and 00:23:54.019 --> 00:23:58.065 I'm like, she's like, Are you nervous? I'm like, I'm very nervous, and why 00:23:58.098 --> 00:24:01.147 isn't my husband in here yet? They don't, he doesn't come in until right 00:24:01.180 --> 00:24:03.825 before we're about to cut. 00:24:03.858 --> 00:24:08.176 What OK, let's be strong. Let's get our thoughts back together. Let's 00:24:08.209 --> 00:24:11.976 focus on it. She's like, Oh, you've got great anatomy. Like, great anatomy 00:24:12.009 --> 00:24:17.055 for what? She's like, for the spinal. I'm like, That's great. Cool. She's 00:24:17.088 --> 00:24:20.377 like, OK, hold still, and I'm holding on to this lady that I just met 10 00:24:20.410 --> 00:24:25.496 minutes ago to put in this huge needle on my back. Very painless. It was a 00:24:25.529 --> 00:24:28.857 little bit of a prick. It worked fabulously. Then they start putting me 00:24:28.890 --> 00:24:31.936 back and I get so nauseous. And I look over to the left at the 00:24:31.969 --> 00:24:36.246 anesthesiologist and I'm like, I'm going to throw up. Probably a little 00:24:36.279 --> 00:24:39.627 bit because I just realized how much I was shaking from the adrenaline and 00:24:39.660 --> 00:24:44.986 how nervous I was. scary, scary, scary thing for me to get the spinal. It 00:24:45.019 --> 00:24:49.315 was the only thing I was really worried about. She gives me, she's like, 00:24:49.348 --> 00:24:53.476 Zofran, Zofran. Yes, please. Zofran, pushes it into my fabulous ID that 00:24:53.509 --> 00:24:58.726 the grumpy, grumpy man gave me, and it worked like a charm. I lay down, 00:24:58.759 --> 00:25:02.607 they put the curtains up, do all those things, just white and this light 00:25:02.640 --> 00:25:08.486 above me and cool, I can't move or feel anything. Where's my husband? He's 00:25:08.519 --> 00:25:13.726 still not here. My OB comes in, whoever's assisting her comes in. I 00:25:13.759 --> 00:25:17.906 remember her introducing me, but I don't know. And they, they start 00:25:17.939 --> 00:25:24.930 everything and. Finally I hear my husband come in and she's like, Oh great.