WEBVTT 00:00:00.949 --> 00:00:05.896 My first son, everything was went really well and I really enjoyed the 00:00:05.929 --> 00:00:10.896 experience, so I kind of expected the same with Austin. And it, and it was 00:00:10.929 --> 00:00:14.695 very different. Both pregnancies though were really good and I also got 00:00:14.728 --> 00:00:17.936 pregnant really quickly with both of them, but with Austin, everything 00:00:17.969 --> 00:00:21.657 happened extra fast. I was immediately pregnant, so one try and we're done 00:00:21.690 --> 00:00:25.456 , and which kind of upset my husband because he really liked trying to get 00:00:25.489 --> 00:00:28.296 pregnant. Then the whole pregnancy went by really quickly because I was 00:00:28.329 --> 00:00:33.936 busy with work and before I knew it, it was time to basically have Austin 00:00:33.969 --> 00:00:36.793 in the middle of the night. I woke up and just like with Bennett, I 00:00:36.826 --> 00:00:40.793 started to feel some contractions and they're mainly in my back. I was 00:00:40.826 --> 00:00:43.713 like, all right, so I'm probably gonna wake up in a couple hours and be 00:00:43.746 --> 00:00:47.153 ready to go to the hospital and it's all gonna kind of go smoothly like it 00:00:47.186 --> 00:00:50.293 did with Bennett. So in the morning I got up and I called the doctor and 00:00:50.326 --> 00:00:54.113 he said to come into the office. I had been having contractions in just in 00:00:54.146 --> 00:00:59.930 my back for about every 7 minutes and so they put me on the machine. And 00:00:59.963 --> 00:01:02.610 they came back and they're like, this is probably just pre-labor, which 00:01:02.643 --> 00:01:06.810 kind of surprised me because it really felt like everything with Bennett. 00:01:06.843 --> 00:01:09.689 I just felt like I was just gonna be going to the hospital after this, but 00:01:09.722 --> 00:01:12.250 they sent me home. Throughout the day, I kept having these back 00:01:12.283 --> 00:01:15.650 contractions. The only thing that started to worry me is that I never felt 00:01:15.683 --> 00:01:18.810 anything in the front. I went through my day, I kind of worked from home 00:01:18.843 --> 00:01:22.200 for half the day. I didn't go into work. My mom was there and we went to 00:01:22.233 --> 00:01:25.467 Target, went and got our nails. Done the whole time I'm timing my 00:01:25.500 --> 00:01:28.316 contractions because I just nothing was happening and, and before I left 00:01:28.349 --> 00:01:30.587 the doctor's office that morning, he said, Well, just call me when 00:01:30.620 --> 00:01:33.548 something happens. And I was like, well, I kind of thought that's what I 00:01:33.581 --> 00:01:37.587 did. That's why I'm here. But OK, what, what else is gonna happen? And so 00:01:37.620 --> 00:01:40.988 I'm waiting the whole time like, what? And I'm such like a good like I 00:01:41.021 --> 00:01:44.307 just follow the rules and like I just wanna like impress my doctor so I 00:01:44.340 --> 00:01:47.628 didn't want to like call him with anything else until something else 00:01:47.661 --> 00:01:52.286 happened. Maybe 8 to 10 hours have gone by, so still the back contractions 00:01:52.319 --> 00:01:57.126 , nothing else. I remember going back into my laundry room and got some of 00:01:57.159 --> 00:02:00.947 my clothes, put it in the bag, still expecting pretty soon stomach 00:02:00.980 --> 00:02:04.587 contraction will start and then I'll call the doctor. So I, I walked out 00:02:04.620 --> 00:02:08.582 into the living room and I sat down on my sofa and my. My son who was 4, 00:02:08.615 --> 00:02:11.781 was sitting on the sofa watching TV and everyone was kind of gathered in 00:02:11.814 --> 00:02:15.342 the living room and all of a sudden I felt a stomach contraction, so I was 00:02:15.375 --> 00:02:21.571 like, oh yes. And maybe 10 seconds later I felt a really strong stomach 00:02:21.604 --> 00:02:25.582 contraction and I jumped off the couch onto my knees so I'm on my hands 00:02:25.615 --> 00:02:30.446 and knees on the floor and my water just breaks everywhere. And nobody 00:02:30.479 --> 00:02:33.517 understands what's happening. I started just screaming. I can't even walk 00:02:33.550 --> 00:02:35.886 at this point. It feels like as soon as my water broke, it feels like 00:02:35.919 --> 00:02:39.446 there's a head coming out. The whole plan had been for me and my mom and 00:02:39.479 --> 00:02:43.487 Shawn to go to the hospital together and Dad and Bennett to stay home 00:02:43.520 --> 00:02:46.725 together so that my mom could be there for the birth and, and videotape it 00:02:46.758 --> 00:02:49.843 and everything. But at this point, I thought like the baby was coming out. 00:02:49.876 --> 00:02:54.352 And I'm freaking out, so I, because my dad was, had delivered babies 00:02:54.385 --> 00:02:58.221 before, I had him get in the car with us and, and this is like all rushed 00:02:58.254 --> 00:03:01.713 , we all just jumped in my little car. So my dad's in the backseat of a 00:03:01.746 --> 00:03:05.911 two-door car. I'm in the front seat and Shaun's driving. We get on the 00:03:05.944 --> 00:03:09.272 road and we're driving towards the hospital, which is 20 minutes away. So 00:03:09.305 --> 00:03:13.298 we have to get through. Downtown Scottsdale up the highway and over to the 00:03:13.331 --> 00:03:17.498 hospital, but downtown Scottsdale is full of traffic because the spring 00:03:17.531 --> 00:03:21.607 training games have gotten out. So tons of cars on the road. It's probably 00:03:21.640 --> 00:03:26.939 7:15 at night. I can't even sit on my butt because there's feels like a 00:03:26.972 --> 00:03:32.186 head's coming out. So I'm leaning over. I I'm like leaning on one but one 00:03:32.219 --> 00:03:35.745 butt cheek. I got my hand against the door and my other hands holding on 00:03:35.778 --> 00:03:39.547 to my emergency brake, but I didn't know it. So I'm screaming and my dad, 00:03:39.580 --> 00:03:43.946 my dad the whole time is like, OK, so tell me what, how far apart of the 00:03:43.979 --> 00:03:47.585 contractions, and I can't talk. And he keeps asking me and Shawn's like, I 00:03:47.618 --> 00:03:50.025 don't, I don't think you should be asking her that. and Shawn's calling 00:03:50.058 --> 00:03:53.427 the doctors and he's like, we're on the way to the hospital and dad won't 00:03:53.460 --> 00:03:55.995 stop asking. me how far apart my contractions are. I'm like, there, there 00:03:56.028 --> 00:03:59.846 are no contractions. It's like one big long contraction. There's no time 00:03:59.879 --> 00:04:03.896 in between. And the whole time I'm screaming, Daddy, Daddy, the baby's 00:04:03.929 --> 00:04:06.677 coming. And Sean's like trying to get through, we're, we're going through 00:04:06.710 --> 00:04:09.555 all these stoplights. I'm panicked. I thought, I thought for sure I was 00:04:09.588 --> 00:04:12.995 gonna have the baby in the car. And by this point, I realized I had had, I 00:04:13.028 --> 00:04:16.127 was pulling up on the emergency brake cause I, I was just grabbing 00:04:16.160 --> 00:04:20.774 whatever I could. So I, I let go of the emergency brake. I grab on to Sean 00:04:20.807 --> 00:04:24.575 and he's getting on the highway and he's like, heck, I think he's up to 90 00:04:24.608 --> 00:04:28.135 on the highway and I'm got a death grip on his arm and I'm biting his 00:04:28.168 --> 00:04:33.695 shoulder and screaming, Daddy, the baby's coming. So we finally then get 00:04:33.728 --> 00:04:38.296 to the Shea Boulevard exit and within a few minutes we're we're to the 00:04:38.329 --> 00:04:42.796 hospital gate and so he somehow him and my dad get me. Out of the car, 00:04:42.829 --> 00:04:45.995 into the wheelchair, but I'm still like in these, these positions where I 00:04:46.028 --> 00:04:50.567 can't move and my flip flop is somehow wedged between the wheel of the of 00:04:50.600 --> 00:04:54.596 the chair and I can't move my leg at this point now, I'm no longer 00:04:54.629 --> 00:04:58.586 screaming daddy, now I'm screaming F words. All the way through the 00:04:58.619 --> 00:05:02.356 hospital, so Sean starts running through over to the elevators and there's 00:05:02.389 --> 00:05:05.546 all these people coming out and they all have smiles on their faces and I 00:05:05.579 --> 00:05:10.866 , I, I just remember their faces because I look, I'm screaming F-bombs and 00:05:10.899 --> 00:05:14.546 and grunting and sweating and, and I look at them and they're all smiling 00:05:14.579 --> 00:05:17.507 and all of sudden all their faces kind of freeze and everyone jumps out of 00:05:17.540 --> 00:05:21.786 the elevator and so Sean gets me on the elevator, we get upstairs and he 00:05:21.819 --> 00:05:24.916 starts running. And my flip flops caught in the wheel, so it's like going 00:05:24.949 --> 00:05:28.317 flap, flap, flap, flap, flap, flap all the way to where the maternity ward 00:05:28.350 --> 00:05:31.437 is. And so I'm here, I can hear all these people laughing, but I'm still 00:05:31.470 --> 00:05:35.555 in the middle of screaming the F word because it hurts so bad. It just 00:05:35.588 --> 00:05:39.637 went from like my back to my whole body and it feels like the whole time I 00:05:39.670 --> 00:05:41.955 was just so terrified because it felt like there was a head coming out and 00:05:41.988 --> 00:05:43.830 I didn't want to look and I didn't want to put my hands. Down there 00:05:43.863 --> 00:05:47.312 because I knew like I'd feel the head and I have no idea really what was 00:05:47.345 --> 00:05:50.281 down there because I just didn't want to look. I was too terrified. So 00:05:50.314 --> 00:05:54.950 Shawn's yelling, it's go time at the guy at the front gate or at the front 00:05:54.983 --> 00:05:58.830 desk, and he said, Who are you? And Sean yells, Dooley. And so the guy 00:05:58.863 --> 00:06:02.791 just opens the doors and they go flying open. He goes, Take your first 00:06:02.824 --> 00:06:06.197 right and your first left and There's these two nurses standing there 00:06:06.230 --> 00:06:08.796 waiting for us, so everything went really fast once we got there. It was 00:06:08.829 --> 00:06:12.197 like they're totally prepared. We, they wheel me into the room, which is 00:06:12.230 --> 00:06:15.676 kind of like your check-in room. They somehow get me on the bed. I don't 00:06:15.709 --> 00:06:19.515 even remember how that happened. Everything's really painful, so it's so 00:06:19.548 --> 00:06:23.075 hard to move and it's so hard to talk or anything. The nurse takes one 00:06:23.108 --> 00:06:27.051 look and she says, she's plus. We got to get her into a room. And I'm like 00:06:27.084 --> 00:06:30.452 , what does that mean? And so I look at one of the nurses and I say, Well 00:06:30.485 --> 00:06:33.972 , can I get my epidural? because that's what I remember I loved so much 00:06:34.005 --> 00:06:37.373 about giving birth to Bennet. It's like, once you got an epidural, it was 00:06:37.406 --> 00:06:42.012 a party. Like everything was awesome. We were making jokes with the doctor. 00:06:42.045 --> 00:06:44.998 Like that was fun and I really enjoyed that and the nurse looks at me. 00:06:45.031 --> 00:06:47.947 He's like, oh no, honey, you're not getting an epidural. And I just 00:06:47.980 --> 00:06:52.108 remember the look on Shaw's face because I looked at him like, What? 00:06:52.141 --> 00:06:54.459 You've got to be kidding me. I can't do this. I can't do this without an 00:06:54.492 --> 00:06:57.907 epidural. I'm totally freaked out because I'm so that girl that tells 00:06:57.940 --> 00:07:01.868 everyone, you just get an epidural. I'll be all fine. And at this point, 00:07:01.901 --> 00:07:06.428 my voice, I'm like crying. I, I'm like panicked. I can't get on that bed. 00:07:06.461 --> 00:07:10.269 How do I get on that bed? And, and I don't even know. I did it. Nobody 00:07:10.302 --> 00:07:15.776 touched me. I like crab walked onto the other bed. And it hurt so bad. 00:07:15.809 --> 00:07:20.205 That's all I remember. I was in so much pain and so they, they take 00:07:20.238 --> 00:07:23.645 another look at me and they're like, don't push yet. The doctor's coming 00:07:23.678 --> 00:07:27.887 in. But there was no like I had been trying not to push since my water 00:07:27.920 --> 00:07:32.967 broke. So I had been trying the whole time in the car not to push and I'm 00:07:33.000 --> 00:07:37.086 in the hospital bed and I just have to push because at this point I've, 00:07:37.119 --> 00:07:41.606 I've been like this for 35, 40 minutes now. So the, the another doctor 00:07:41.639 --> 00:07:45.127 comes running in, my doctor's not there yet. Another doctor comes running 00:07:45.160 --> 00:07:48.055 in and all I can remember remember seeing is she's hurriedly trying to put 00:07:48.088 --> 00:07:53.217 on her gloves, and I got this one crazy strong contraction and I started 00:07:53.250 --> 00:07:57.336 to let out this whale and then like my whole body just like let loose. It 00:07:57.369 --> 00:08:01.291 started really loud and it got so loud that it hurt me. My ears, it 00:08:01.324 --> 00:08:06.171 sounded like a jet engine taking off. It was like so primal. During that 00:08:06.204 --> 00:08:10.252 whole yell, the baby just like came out. I felt like the doctor barely got 00:08:10.285 --> 00:08:14.252 her gloves on. I had to like catch Austin. The one thing I remember, um, 00:08:14.285 --> 00:08:20.387 right when the baby was coming out. Thinking, I can't believe that I'm 00:08:20.420 --> 00:08:23.187 feeling this right now because you could just feel it. I felt like your 00:08:23.220 --> 00:08:28.187 body was like dripping apart like down there. Like it just felt awful. It 00:08:28.220 --> 00:08:31.786 felt everything like you thought it was gonna feel like times 10 and I was 00:08:31.819 --> 00:08:36.265 so pissed that I had to feel it because I just wanted the epidural so bad. 00:08:36.298 --> 00:08:39.667 So the baby's out and all of a sudden like my body is, it's like a total 00:08:39.700 --> 00:08:44.385 180 like it felt. Amazing. All of a sudden I it was all gone. All the pain 00:08:44.418 --> 00:08:48.547 was gone. They have the baby and all I remember hearing is the nurse say, 00:08:48.580 --> 00:08:53.385 Hey, we've got a ginger baby. So I have this little boy with bright red 00:08:53.418 --> 00:08:57.576 hair and the other nurses are like congratulating me and telling me how 00:08:57.609 --> 00:09:00.787 awesome I did and next thing I know my dad comes walking in and he's like 00:09:00.820 --> 00:09:05.706 , All right, we're ready to go? And the nurses are like, no, the baby's 00:09:05.739 --> 00:09:09.645 out already. So my dad in the time. That they dropped me off at the front 00:09:09.678 --> 00:09:12.885 door, parked the car and came up and I'd already had the babies. So I got 00:09:12.918 --> 00:09:17.525 into the delivery room about 8007, 808, and I had the baby by 8:12. As 00:09:17.558 --> 00:09:20.927 soon as he came out and like about the time they put him on me, the 00:09:20.960 --> 00:09:25.167 adrenaline started kicking in and I was like totally shivering and shaking. 00:09:25.200 --> 00:09:28.287 They had to cover me with a bunch of blankets because I think my body was 00:09:28.320 --> 00:09:33.116 just in shock after all that. But I felt like I could enjoy it a lot more 00:09:33.149 --> 00:09:36.246 when when they put him on me than with Bennett because with Bennett, I was 00:09:36.279 --> 00:09:40.427 like so freaked out. About what that looked like, what a brand new baby 00:09:40.460 --> 00:09:44.667 looked like, and it was like disgusting, but with, I was a little bit more 00:09:44.700 --> 00:09:48.836 ready for it. So it was really sweet and I like immediately I could 00:09:48.869 --> 00:09:52.427 immediately breastfeed him and he like he was such an easy baby. 00:09:52.460 --> 00:09:56.625 Everything was easy. He immediately started breastfeeding. He, you know, 00:09:56.658 --> 00:10:01.816 slept that night and so it was much, it was funny because with Bennett, 00:10:01.849 --> 00:10:06.826 the whole. Birth was really fun and exciting and nice, but then, you know 00:10:06.859 --> 00:10:11.586 , once I had the baby, it was crazy and dramatic and hard to do. But with 00:10:11.619 --> 00:10:17.436 Austin, it was like the opposite. Once I had the baby, he was so easy and 00:10:17.469 --> 00:10:22.186 you know, uneventful and just easy to enjoy and whereas his birth was 00:10:22.219 --> 00:10:27.826 crazy and out of control, so it was like total. Opposites. That was pretty 00:10:27.859 --> 00:10:31.066 much it. The next day I remember my doctor coming back to visit me and he 00:10:31.099 --> 00:10:34.346 said something about how smoothly I went and I was like so aghast because 00:10:34.379 --> 00:10:38.186 it was so dramatic for me. I didn't feel like anything went smoothly, but 00:10:38.219 --> 00:10:41.096 when you look back on it, it went really smoothly like the baby just came 00:10:41.129 --> 00:10:46.025 out. There was no complications. I was barely in labor for 35 minutes, but 00:10:46.058 --> 00:10:51.255 it just felt like. A lot of drama and a lot of craziness and like I almost 00:10:51.288 --> 00:10:56.726 had a baby on highways. For me it wasn't smooth, but I, I am glad that I 00:10:56.759 --> 00:11:01.755 experienced it now. I'm glad that it went down the way it did and that I 00:11:01.788 --> 00:11:04.645 actually did have a baby without having an epidural because now I know 00:11:04.678 --> 00:11:08.759 what it feels like and I think that's kind of cool.