today is this stack of bulk. It's and on the bottom road
all dead, no,
double dipped chocolate ping pong ball sized salted nut balls. Today we're
calling my name. You've been there before? No, no, I'm going to be good.
I'm not having the malted milk balls. I'm having sex right back and forth
, back and forth. Should shouldn't bad good. Right. It took me many years
after that. I really understood what was happening. She didn't mention it
, but my undergrad degree here at issue was in psychology And it took me a
long time to really understand what was going on. Two pivotal things
happen. Well 3 1 is it wasn't working and the second is that I kept seeing
one patient after the other that told me the same story. They were
struggling with the same issues. They were smart people, they had enough
knowledge, they knew what to do, but they kept going back to what they
should. And the third thing that happened is I had two young Children who
just naturally managed their eating without all the effort and that I
think it's so very different from the way that I manage my, so this is a
person who eats instinctively. So why did they eat? What is their primary
cycle driver hunger? So there's a primary cycle driver is the need for
fuel. They know when their body needs fuel and they get hungry to tell
them it's time to fill up. So what do they eat?
Whatever they want and that's what we hate about them. Right? Think about
this. These are the people who are having the burger and the fries when we
have the salad dressing outside. You notice this now this is also
important because not everybody who eats instinctively necessarily eats
healthfully. So I think in our culture, we've sort of made this assumption
about people and assume make assumptions about what they do and what their
health practices are by the way they look or what we think they're doing.
But the truth is how many of, you know, somebody who never struggled with
their weight, but they live on junk food because I know people like that.
Mhm. Thank you.
Here's the thing, healthy behaviors are for everybody and it's not about
weight at all really. Now, how does this person eat? I like to use the
word intentional now think about the word. Yes. It's as if this person has
this built in fuel gauge and without really thinking about it, their fuel
gauge, as I said, lets them know that they're hungry and full. So they
keep their themselves at this comfort level and they eat with the
intention of feeling, oh, how many of you have experienced going on a diet
or not being allowed to eat a certain food and want to get war and yes,
more and more beginning to actually crave out food. So I think that this
is one of the hidden factors in our current epidemic. I think the
treatment is actually making the problem worse because the more we
restrict and deprive ourselves, the more we want? The very thing that
we've been restricted and depriving ourselves? Because we're busy as I
suspect, many of you are busy. We tend to try to multitask for hyper task
, right?
But the brain can only focus fully on one thing. You can do lots of things
, but something has to go on autopilot, doesn't it? Have you ever pulled
up to a four way stop and had absolutely no idea who was next. That's
mindlessness. And so when we get in that we can feel stopped, let's try
satisfied. And what does your body do with food is and ask you to eat?
Stores it of course it stores it. It's not out to get you. It's out to
save you. It's doing what it was perfectly designed to do. Yet. Many of us
fight that battle on an ongoing basis. So you combine this with the fact
that you don't have to do a lot in our culture. You certainly don't have
to do a lot to get that buffalo burger. You don't have to chase it down
24/7
in the streets of Phoenix. You can get a bottle over. So we ended up
getting out of whack. Now, women creating doesn't come from hunger eating
will never satisfy you eat when you're in this overeating cycle physically
? How does the food get from the plate where the package into your body
fast, right? Why don't we eat so fast?
Have you ever been thinking about first or eating first and thinking about
seconds.
What has to be fast
1? Make sure you get your share. Yeah. You don't want to get caught, right
?
Where were in this mode? We're eating fast. We're not growing and paying
attention. So the food's going down. We say, oh, I love to eat, but we're
not really eating in a way that shows that we love it very much at all. We
can talk all day about what. But what I noticed I started doing is
teaching this program back in late, right? And over the last 14 years,
I've noticed an evolution, you've seen the same thing. It's not just about
and calories anymore. Certainly not about fat anymore. But there are all
kinds of rules about what you should eat local. Organic. We're spending
all this energy thinking about food. In fact, thinking about food as much
, if not more than we were when we were over eating. So we get in this
cycle all driven by all of these rules. In essence, we end up turning
healthy eating into a four letter word and exercise is punishment for
eating. Does anybody here still believe this really works for most people
? No, it takes a lot energy to stay on the diet and most people don't have
that kind of time and energy to spend on something that doesn't feel that.
So what mindful eating is really all about is about moving away from
control to being in charge, throw anything at me that you that you want. I
don't know what it's going to be on my lunch table. I don't know what
they're gonna be having this dinner party. I don't know how I'm gonna be
feeling tomorrow. It doesn't matter. You throw anything at me and I have
the ability to make a decision that works for me because I'm present in
this moment and making decisions that are right, rightthat