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today is this stack of bulk. It's and on the bottom road

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all dead, no,

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double dipped chocolate ping pong ball
sized salted nut balls. Today we're

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calling my name. You've been there
before? No, no, I'm going to be good.

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I'm not having the malted milk balls.
I'm having sex right back and forth

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, back and forth. Should shouldn't bad
good. Right. It took me many years

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after that. I really understood what
was happening. She didn't mention it

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, but my undergrad degree here at
issue was in psychology And it took me a

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long time to really understand what
was going on. Two pivotal things

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happen. Well 3 1 is it wasn't working
and the second is that I kept seeing

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one patient after the other that told
me the same story. They were

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struggling with the same issues. They
were smart people, they had enough

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knowledge, they knew what to do, but
they kept going back to what they

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should. And the third thing that
happened is I had two young Children who

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just naturally managed their eating
without all the effort and that I

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think it's so very different from the
way that I manage my, so this is a

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person who eats instinctively. So why
did they eat? What is their primary

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cycle driver hunger? So there's a
primary cycle driver is the need for

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fuel. They know when their body needs
fuel and they get hungry to tell

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them it's time to fill up. So what do
they eat?

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Whatever they want and that's what we
hate about them. Right? Think about

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this. These are the people who are
having the burger and the fries when we

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have the salad dressing outside. You
notice this now this is also

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important because not everybody who
eats instinctively necessarily eats

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healthfully. So I think in our
culture, we've sort of made this assumption

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about people and assume make
assumptions about what they do and what their

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health practices are by the way they
look or what we think they're doing.

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But the truth is how many of, you
know, somebody who never struggled with

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their weight, but they live on junk
food because I know people like that.

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 Mhm. Thank you.

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Here's the thing, healthy behaviors
are for everybody and it's not about

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weight at all really. Now, how does
this person eat? I like to use the

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word intentional now think about the
word. Yes. It's as if this person has

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this built in fuel gauge and without
really thinking about it, their fuel

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gauge, as I said, lets them know that
they're hungry and full. So they

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keep their themselves at this comfort
level and they eat with the

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intention of feeling, oh, how many of
you have experienced going on a diet

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or not being allowed to eat a certain
food and want to get war and yes,

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more and more beginning to actually
crave out food. So I think that this

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is one of the hidden factors in our
current epidemic. I think the

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treatment is actually making the
problem worse because the more we

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restrict and deprive ourselves, the
more we want? The very thing that

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we've been restricted and depriving
ourselves? Because we're busy as I

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suspect, many of you are busy. We tend
to try to multitask for hyper task

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, right?

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But the brain can only focus fully on
one thing. You can do lots of things

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, but something has to go on
autopilot, doesn't it? Have you ever pulled

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up to a four way stop and had
absolutely no idea who was next. That's

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mindlessness. And so when we get in
that we can feel stopped, let's try

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satisfied. And what does your body do
with food is and ask you to eat?

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Stores it of course it stores it. It's
not out to get you. It's out to

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save you. It's doing what it was
perfectly designed to do. Yet. Many of us

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fight that battle on an ongoing basis.
So you combine this with the fact

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that you don't have to do a lot in our
culture. You certainly don't have

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to do a lot to get that buffalo
burger. You don't have to chase it down

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24/7

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in the streets of Phoenix. You can get
a bottle over. So we ended up

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getting out of whack. Now, women
creating doesn't come from hunger eating

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will never satisfy you eat when you're
in this overeating cycle physically

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? How does the food get from the plate
where the package into your body

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fast, right? Why don't we eat so fast?

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Have you ever been thinking about
first or eating first and thinking about

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seconds.

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What has to be fast

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1? Make sure you get your share. Yeah.
You don't want to get caught, right

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?

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Where were in this mode? We're eating
fast. We're not growing and paying

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attention. So the food's going down.
We say, oh, I love to eat, but we're

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not really eating in a way that shows
that we love it very much at all. We

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can talk all day about what. But what
I noticed I started doing is

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teaching this program back in late,
right? And over the last 14 years,

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I've noticed an evolution, you've seen
the same thing. It's not just about

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and calories anymore. Certainly not
about fat anymore. But there are all

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kinds of rules about what you should
eat local. Organic. We're spending

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all this energy thinking about food.
In fact, thinking about food as much

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, if not more than we were when we
were over eating. So we get in this

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cycle all driven by all of these
rules. In essence, we end up turning

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healthy eating into a four letter word
and exercise is punishment for

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eating. Does anybody here still
believe this really works for most people

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? No, it takes a lot energy to stay on
the diet and most people don't have

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that kind of time and energy to spend
on something that doesn't feel that.

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So what mindful eating is really all about is about moving away from

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control to being in charge, throw
anything at me that you that you want. I

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don't know what it's going to be on my
lunch table. I don't know what

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they're gonna be having this dinner
party. I don't know how I'm gonna be

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feeling tomorrow. It doesn't matter.
You throw anything at me and I have

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the ability to make a decision that
works for me because I'm present in

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this moment and making decisions that
are right, rightthat